Ask Me Help Desk - I cannot get pregnant, please help

Me and my finace have been togeter for over two years now! I came off the pill about 10 months ago because we decided that now is a good time to have a baby! So we have been trying for 10months but nothing has happened?? As nothing as happened I am getting very worrid that I may never be able to have childern! Please help me?

I'm new at this.I read things like this all the time but not brave enougth to talk.have you found any ansers about trying to get pregnant as I've been trying for 2 years and it riping me apart

Hey hun, I know how it feels. This is more common then you would think. We tried for our second baby for a year. It was a shock to me because my son was conceived so quickly and easily, (we hadn't even planned to have a baby yet, but were doing nothing to prevent it either. 2 weeks after our wedding we conceived.) and then when we were trying so hard to have another baby, it took us a year. First of all I would suggest going to the doctor to get a clean bill of health. They can check you out and make sure everything looks fine. This way you have the " whats wrong with me" worries out of the way. Second of all, take time to relax with your man, and just enjoy the process of it all. Stress is a huge factor in not being able to conceive. Like I said, our first was so easy. It was a carefree and relaxing time for us, all the wedding and everything was out of the way and we were just enjoying being married. With this second one, my husband was gone all month with his job, only seeing him 10 days out of the month, and feeling like I was raising my son alone, and worrying about money and my marriage and so forth and this continued for a good part of a year. Then we moved. New job, he was home all the time, allowed us to be friends again and everything. We stopped worrying about trying so hard, and I decided to just enjoy the good shape that my body was in, and enjoy it until it happened. I got pregnant THAT VERY MONTH. I'm now 3 months along. So don't give up hope. Some women's bodies take longer to go back to normal after because. And sometimes, the situations and stresses in life just don't allow. So basically,see your doc, take vitamins, and just sit back and enjoy the ride. (so hard to do when you want something so badly, I know. )keep us posted.

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Originally Posted by nat

im new at this.i read things like this all the time but not brave enougth to talk.have you found any ansers about trying to get pregnant as iv been trying for 2 years and it riping me apart

I haven't found anything there is a answer to my question, have a look at that, as it gives you most of the information you need, if I may ask how old are you?

Thank you so much for you answer it has helped me a lot, I will keep you informed! May I ask you how old you were when you had you first little boy?

I was 19 when I got pregnant with my son, but I turned 20 like 2 weeks before he was born. He's now two.

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Originally Posted by buggage

I was 19 when I got pregnant with my son, but I turned 20 like 2 weeks before he was born. he's now two.

Well I am 20 and just wondered if it was to young to have a baby but I think my relationship with my fiancé is good, better than good, so I think it is the right time, what do you think? Xx

People hate me for this answer, but here goes. I think you should wait until after you are married. Now, hold on, let me finish before you bash me.

It is easier for the man to walk out of the relationship IF it gets rough after the baby is born and you are not married. It is much harder, not to mention more expensive, if you are married. I know, divorce does happen. But look at how many unwed mothers there are who are doing it all alone.

I know another one, "but we are stable, he loves me, we are good together." But things do change after the baby comes.

I have had 4. All while married, and yes, I am divorced from the father of my first 2. But it is much harder for him to walk away if you are married.

Please do not bash me, just think about it.

Well, in my opinion, age doesn't matter. It's the matureity that matters. Each person can handle things at different ages. After all there are girls in other countries who are married and having babies by the time they are 14, and its expected. Now, whether they are mature enough physically and mentally to handle it, who knows. It depends. Mainly, just make sure that you and your guy are not pushed apart by the pregnancy, MEANING once you do get preggy not to regret the pregnancy or do anything to stop it( pregnnacy is so precious, enjoy every moment of it, even the hard parts) BUT that sometimes it can hurt relationships if both people are not seeing it the same way. Sometimes guys feel like they are ignored, or pushed away, or left out during their significant others pregnancys. They can't feel and emotionally or physically experience everything that the woman does, and sometimes it seems the mom is closer to the unborn child then them. I'm not saying ignore your baby, but try to include your guy in as much as you can when you start to feel moments show him, try to read up on things that are happening to you with him, and when the time comes, go to a lamaze class. Its also important to leave baby out of it sometime though. Just time you and him, without talking about it. Just keeping your relationship alive and romantic and your friendship strong. Doing it before you get married could keep your relationship just as strong or stronger, OR it could hurt it by the shock of so much life changes, and so much responsibilities shoved on you at once. Just make sure that you are BOTH ready for this commitment at this time. Don't rush into something you might regret not waiting for later. A baby is a beautiful wonderful thing, but its so much responsibility and a big life change. Just make sure you are both ready for it. Hehe, yeah basically I am talking too much probably, but anyway, I am just speaking from my personal expereinces. Hope that it helped a little bit.

Well Im new at this site but I am were you are now me and my husband have been trying to get pregnant for over two years now and we just can't please help me what can I take or what can I do

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Originally Posted by xleanne20x

me and my finace have been togeter for over two years now! I came off the pill about 10 months ago because we decided that now is a good time to have a baby! So we have been trying for 10months but nothing has happened??? As nothing as happened i am getting very worrid that i may never be able to have childern! Please help me?

I'm having the same problem but I was on the niddle for a year an came of it a year ago I've been trying for a long time an nothing has happened for me to. But if you go to the doctors they might give you advice an tell you how long it will take before you can get preganant cuming off the pill.