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Jealous of a boyfriend

All right so I've been dating this guy for a couple of months now and things have been going great. The only problem is sometimes I find myself jealous of him. He seems to party a lot and spend lots of time with his friends. I myself, only have a few close friends which I see rarely and I've never been to a party before in my life. So when I'm sitting at home watching TV and I'm getting texts from him about him partying and playing beer pong (or whatever it is high school kids do at parties now) I can't help but get jealous. I want to know what it's like to party. I wish I could have fun like that. So basically I'm literally jealous of the things he gets to do and I don't know how to handle my jealousy. I'd appreciate all the advice given to me.

First off, any game that involves alcohol he is too young to be playing. In fact, he needs to get away from alcohol, and anything else he shouldn't be doing, immediately.

Second, go make yourself some friends! It doesn't have to be close friends, I guarantee your boyfriend doesn't even have that great of a friendship with them. He just wants to have fun.

Have you tried asking him to take you to a party with him? He should want to have fun with you as much as his friends is he is a good boyfriend.

Did you ever consider that he isn't right for you?

I don't think you are going to be very jealous whenever he is arrested for underaged drinking. Find somebody that enjoys your company and you have more in common with.
Also do not go partying with him or you will be in trouble for just being there if it involves drinking.

So you're at home behaving yourself and you're jealous that you're boyfriend is poisoning his liver and breaking the law?

First off, he doesn't sound like the best influence.

And second off, go find some more friends. There are tons at your school, I guarantee that. Join sports or other after school activities, volunteer, or get a part time job. There are tons of ways to meet GOOD friends.

You already had one post nearly identical to this one concerning your lack of friends, before that your concern was your uncontrollable thoughts of your ex-boyfriend, and now, your concern is jealousy of your current boyfriend? How many more times your going to post about your relationship troubles before you actually get it?

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You've actually had several posts that are close to this.

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Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

You already had one post nearly identical to this one concerning your lack of friends, before that your concern was your uncontrollable thoughts of your ex-boyfriend, and now, your concern is jealousy of your current boyfriend? How many more times your going to post about your relationship troubles before you actually get it?

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You've actually had several posts that are close to this.

Thank you for that rude and unhelpful comment. If you don't want to read the "same story" over and over again than by all means quit reading my threads and don't post mean things on them like this.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

I don't think you are going to be very jealous whenever he is arrested for underaged drinking. Find somebody that enjoys your company and you have more in common with.
Also do not go partying with him or you will be in trouble for just being there if it involves drinking.

It's not the drinking I'm jealous of. I'm jealous that he has more of a social life that's what I'm asking help for.

Well if you're jealous of his social life then I guess what I would suggest that you'd try to expand your group of friends... and like Chihuahia momma said: when making new friends you don't have to be concerned at first how close of a friend that person is going to be... But if you go out and meet new people you will expand your group of friends.

Even though you found slapshots post rude and unhelpful he is right about one thing in particulaer, you have posted about lack of friends at an earlier time. And the core of your jealousy here is the lack of friends (am I right?)

Do you have any hobbies or interests that can lead to you meeting new people and potential friends?

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Originally Posted by babyshooter11

it's not the drinking i'm jealous of. i'm jealous that he has more of a social life that's what i'm asking help for.

Yes but you are jealous whether drinking is involved or not so basically same issue. He's there you're here.

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Originally Posted by babyshooter11

Thank you for that rude and unhelpful comment. If you don't want to read the "same story" over and over again than by all means quit reading my threads and don't post mean things on them like this.

If your posts are related then you are suppose to keep to one post. Not all over the board with similar posts. So slapshot was pretty much right with what he told you.

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Originally Posted by babyshooter11

Thank you for that rude and unhelpful comment. If you don't want to read the "same story" over and over again than by all means quit reading my threads and don't post mean things on them like this.

Thanks, I never would have known that if you didn't point that out for me... never did I say I didn't want to read it, I just asked you when are you going to get it.

I'm not the one to tell you what you want to hear, and after starting several threads asking, essentially, the same question, it's clear that's what you want. One thread would've been enough if it really was advice you were looking for.

If you're having all these stressful, bad feelings relationship and yourself, why are you in one? I really just don't see the point.

Go back and read all the threads you started, almost all of them have to do with your current or ex boyfriend all roads point to a rebound. If thinks where hunky dory you probably wouldn't have started a single thread.

I didn't you weren't supposed to post only one thread so sorry for that.

Okay, so maybe I shouldn't have put in all the information about my boyfriend partying, that was probably too much info which gave me totally different advice than I expected. Basically, I'm just jealous that my boyfriend has more a social life than I do and has more friends. The only hobby I have is I play the drums. I have no idea how to make new friends because I'm summer vacation and not in school.

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I want to know what it's like to party. I wish I could have fun like that.

Don't waste your time. That is, unless you like spending the entire next day with a pounding headache, throwing up, dry heaving afterwards (which is even worse) and diarrhea. Not to mention the foolish things you'd say and do (and never live down) while under the influence. Tell your boyfriend to check back with you 30 years from now when he's dying of liver cirrhosis and needs a transplant to survive ; maybe you can give him a piece of yours!

How old are you?

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Originally Posted by babyshooter11

I didn't you weren't supposed to post only one thread so sorry for that but I feel like I have to keep posting new ones because I'm not get enough advice if any. I'm having trouble getting advice and I don't want to post a question and then have someone basically tell me no one wants to hear it. That's what upset me.

There's no problem with adding new information to an already-existing thread or even asking additional questions after the fact. And it does make it easier for everyone, askers and responders alike, to follow the situation and use the forum more efficiently. Threads, once started, generally become ongoing "conversations" of sorts so there's really no need to keep starting new ones.

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Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

Thanks, I never would have known that if you didn't point that out for me... never did I say I didn't want to read it, I just asked you when are you going to get it.

I'm not the one to tell you what you want to hear, and after starting several threads asking, essentially, the same question, it's clear that's what you want. One thread would've been enough if it really was advice you were looking for.

If you're having all these stressful, bad feelings relationship and yourself, why are you in one? I really just don't see the point.

Go back and read all the threads you started, almost all of them have to do with your current or ex boyfriend all roads point to a rebound. If thinks where hunky dory you probably wouldn't have started a single thread.

You're right, actually.

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Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

how old are you?

16

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Originally Posted by babyshooter11

16

I thought you were 20 or thereabouts and in college this whole time.

Anyway, it doesn't matter, same stuff I said still applies, and the younger you learn, the better.

You'll make friends, you don't have to worry about that.

Well, since it is summer and you feel that there is nothing you can do about the friends/social situation. You might consider just enjoying your own company until school starts.

To have the gift of enjoying your own company is a pretty good one.

What type of town/neighborhood surrounds the place you live? There might be some activities for you to join... even if we are over mid-way through July.

Well, well, well
being jealouse is a natural response and it can never be ignored, but it can be controlled. You can be jelouse, but never show that. sometimes if we show feelings, other people use them against us. Instead of seeting home watching TV and waiting for his sms just jumb up and try to be with him at that moment. try to make him feel that you want to be with him. One for sure, try to do everyday something different not Strange, and tell him how amazing it would be it you are together. Go to parties, shopping and any place you can have fun in and talk about it. Enjoy your life meet new people have new friends.( I can help u with that if u want). try to always be yourself and go deep in this life.

after all this
u will see who will be jealouse

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