Ask Me Help Desk - Everything is wrong right now!

Things are going to happen in life that don't fit in with a persons plan, I know this. But is everything really supposed to go wrong all at once?
I'm 16 years old, so I just finished doing my GCSE's.
I was a young smoker, starting at the age of about 12, but I was able to quit at 14. However when everything started messing up in my life about 3 months ago, I started again, and I'm scared that I'll get addicted again, but I just can't stop.
And the reason I started again in the first place is because it seems to me that my life and everything I planned for it, has been tipped upside side down and turned inside out.
I think I've fallen in love...
And that in itself isn't a bad thing, but I think I've fallen in love with a girl.
I'm not homophobic, I have nothing against people that are gay. But at the same time that doesn't mean I'm entirely comfortable with the knowledge that I really like a girl.
But there's just something about her that scares me and attracts me... stupid clichés.
So I'm caught up in smoking and alcohol, and hopelessly in love with a person I'd rather not be in love with. But she hates the smell of smoke.
I can't stop because I don't know what to do... So what can I do with my life right now?

First thing is you should quit smoking and drinking alcohol. If you can quit once, you can quit again. And as far as liking someone of the same sex, just be you. Just choose what ever is comfortable to your taste. Good luck to you.

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Originally Posted by h0p3l355-v4n17y

I was a young smoker, starting at the age of about 12, but I was able to quit at 14. However when everything started messing up in my life about 3 months ago, I started again, and I'm scared that I'll get addicted again, but I just can't stop.
And the reason I started again in the first place is because it seems to me that my life and everything I planned for it, has been tipped upside side down and turned inside out.

Let me ask you this, WHY did you start again?
What I underlined isn't a reason. It's a cause, but not a reason.

I believe what you're looking for is this:
To get rid of [a five letter word that starts with "s"].

I know what it is, but it'll be much easier to prove my point if you say it yourself.

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Originally Posted by h0p3l355-v4n17y

I think I've fallen in love...
And that in itself isn't a bad thing, but I think I've fallen in love with a girl.
I'm not homophobic, I have nothing against people that are gay. But at the same time that doesn't mean I'm entirely comfortable with the knowledge that I really like a girl.
But there's just something about her that scares me and attracts me... stupid cliches.

Honey, please tell me what you think "in love" really is?
I'm sure you don't have any idea, and you are just confusing "love" with "in love". You have a childish liking for this person. Without any sexual attraction to this girl, there is nothing indicating homosexual tendencies.

Sure, you have problems, but the biggest problems are your smoking and drinking, and overreacting and thinking everything in your life is going wrong.

Maybe some sober alone time to think things out would be the best idea. You need to just get off to yourself and think things out. You also said that things in your life are messed up right now, maybe this girl is someone you need to help you through things. She doesn't like smoking and that's got you second guessing smoking. So maybe she is just there to help you turn things around a little bit not the one you are falling in love with.

If you want to quit smoking, then you really can. It's not impossible if you truly want to then you need to build up the willpower to do so. If you feel like your life isn't the way you want it to be, then ask yourself why it is that way, and what are you doing to fix it? As for this girl, I wouldn't call it love, but I would call it attraction. You seem like your having trouble finding out who you really are.

Try to stop smoking get like a patch or something. If you like the girl just tell her an don't smell like cigs it would turn her off. It k to be gay . I'm not but my best friend for 3 years is. When I first found out it was werid an stuff but it didn't matter to me she was the same person.hope this helps