Okay my best friend of like 8 yrs now is having problems in her relationship with her boyfriend. They have been together for quite awhile but she has been having supersitions about her man cheating so she decided to take things into her own hands. Well the other night we were out and she used my cell phone to text her boyfriend and she was pretending to be another female and he was falling for it.
Her: hey baby I love you
Him:who is this
Her: yo babii mamma
Him:which one?
Her:yo new one
Him: so do you have a name?
Her:yea its keniyah
Lol so right about this time he called her and she answered but hung up and then yesterday he was continuosly txtn my phone saying things like well if you change your mind then call me, and what's up new babymomma, well I guess your don't want 2 get to know me but if you change your mind then call or text me OK baby I want to hear your voice. And I'm like ? So I told her and she told me to reply and when I did he was like how old was I how did I look when was he going to see me and all this other stuff so my best friend is hurt and I told her some encouraging words but she say that she still love him and that there could be a possibility that he knew that that was her but was just trying to get back at her but I told her that I doubt it. I really do love my best friend and I don't want to see her hurt so from your point of view what does this seem like so that I can tell her the right thing to do to get over this guy?! Thanks in advance;)

First, look up the term superstitions as it is used out of context for your story.

Second, if this was an eight year relationship then it would appear they must have started dating at like nine years old, as this is the most high school way to deal with a relationship problem. She is not even sure that he is cheating, she just believes he maybe cheating.

Third, please do not you text talk, learn how to write in English, using full sentences and correct grammar.

Thank you.

Oh and another thing I asked him was he talking to someone and he was like well... im not committed if that's what you asking

First off if you would have read the question right then you would have understood. Second of all you need to read slowly to comprehend because I said this specifically "my bestfriend of 8 yrs" and lastly, what does "please do not you text talk" means? That right there makes no sense and I do know how to write correct grammar so thank you for being such a ignorant person and a waste of my time because, you did not even answer the question. Bye and have a wonderful day.

So how old are you?
This is a pretty juvenile way to handle yourselves.
Text talk is a shortening of words to be fewer letters, instead of using proper English. Shows immaturity and an inablity to communicate like an adult.

:rolleyes: Just text him and tell him who YOU are, he will get a clue really quickly. Then he can either come clean to your best friends or she can call him out on it. Either way playing little games like that is a waste of time and a Drama starter. I mean really, do you want that kind of guy with your friend anyway?

As for the other thing... *reads above* I think she was asking you to type it in better English so that it can be more easily read. Most of us aren't reading this from our cell phones, so we all prefer not reading hyper text out of context. So don't call the person willing to help you ignorant, especially when she's trying to help you not come across like you are. It's just good looking out.

I agree. I think I took it the wrong way and thanks for the feedback

Thank you "justwantfair"

First of all: where you out to prove that he was capable of cheating? If so, well the way he responded shows that he is a waste of her time. And yes she might love him and yes she might not want to let go, but that doesn't change the facts.

Tell her to let go and move on!

Oh okay thanks roxypox

Your welcome.
I would tell your friend to lose the drama and not contribute to it.
If she feels like she is being cheated on then the better action would be to confront her boyfriend about her feelings, not try to set him up.

I think that if she doesn't trust him, and she feels he is cheating on her, then she should leave. I also believe that this was a very immagure way to deal with this. Your friend should have aproached him about it. Not only can your friend not trust him, but he can no longer trust her. Not a good relationship ground.

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

she has been friends with her best friend for 8 years. not that her friend had been dating the boy for 8 years.

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That was already established if you read the complete post before you answered.

If your friend was mature about the situation, she would talk with her man face to face, rather than play middle school games and catching him in a lie...

However, now that she knows, it time for her to make a choice. Stick it out and work through, or break-up. Choice A or Choice B??

Hopefully, she will not opt for Choice C, which is act like a immature girl, drag her friends in to this drama factory, and keep playing games.

So my advice for YOU is to be there to support your friend during this situation and stay out and remove yourself from her business. You don't need to be caught up in this anymore than you already are. Next thing you know your friends will be putting you up against your other friends and the circle of drama begins.

DRAMA MAKE THA WORLD GO ROUND!

" I really do love my bestfriend and i dont want to see her hurt so from your point of view what does this seem like so that i can tell her the right thing to do to get over this guy?!? Thanks in advance"

This is not your place. Assisting someone to find 'proof' of infidelity, makes you an accomplice, and two against one is very unfair and dishonest.

You can do nothing to convince her of what she needs to do. She needs to do this without your assistance, your phone, and your guidance. You are playing a nasty game with both of them, and contributing to her not figuring this out on her own.

You would do well by your best friend to listen, and be there for her when she makes her own decisions, without encouraging her one way or the other. That's what best friends do.

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Originally Posted by Sweetgirl10

what does this seem like so that i can tell her the right thing to do to get over this guy?!? Thanks in advance;)

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Tell her to stay in school, sounds like you two could really use some.

No offense, but if you are resorting to texting to try and "catch" your boyfriend cheating. You are way past the point of recovery for the relationship. Once you stoop that low, it's best for everyone to just end it.

And yes, I know it's your friend but still tell her to grow up.

Also, if her gut was telling her that he was cheating, then chances are he was. Always follow your gut, if something smells funny, chances are it is.

Thank you everyone for your advice it really helped out, and I really appreciate all of you that took out your time to answer this question for me:)