Me and myboyfriend dated for about 6 month long distance relationship... I love him so much and I'm in love with him we knew each other as friends friend for 10 years and we started dating 6 month ago... I thought everything was going great but when I ask him if he was in love with me he said NO what should I do?? Please help I have been hurt so many times and I'm afraid this will hurt me too it is already hurthing me so much and he also clearly told me we should take things slow... I do not want to spend any time wasting I'm 32 and want to settle down and have children and he doesn't want to start family any time soon either... what should I do help??

You can't make someone love you and want you.At your age,you should know that.

If he is not in love with you after six months ,chances are good that it just isn't in the cards.Not going to happen.

If you are desperate to have a child,there are other ways to do so that do not involve demeaning yourself by begging for someone's love and attention.

You should not be willing to settle because you hear a ticking clock.

There are many single mothers who manage to raise wonderful children.While it is not the optimal situation,it is doable.

Honor yourself and don't ever let a man or anyone make you feel that you are unworthy of love.

A man will not complete you or make you whole,only you can do that.The more together you are as a single person, who feels good in their own skin,the more men you will find attracted to you.

1) He doesn't feelt he same way about you.

2) He doesn't want the same things as you.

3) It's long distance, so you won't be settling down with him anytime soon.

4) It's only been 6 months and currently long distance, so you don't have a stable relationship yet.

5) Who knows when things will start to settle down and who knows when he will or IF he will actually fall in love.

There are just TOO MANY obstacles for you to be happy. I'd say, let him go and find someone who has more in common with you and wants similar things. You deserve to be happy and clearly this is not a happy situation.

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Originally Posted by ugly24

me and myboyfriend dated for about 6 month long distance relationship...i love him so much and im in love with him we knew each other as friends friend for 10 years and we started dating 6 month ago...i thought everthing was going great but when i ask him if he was in love with me he said NO what should i do??????? please help i have been hurt so many times and im afraid this will hurt me too it is already hurthing me so much and he also clearly told me we should take things slow.... i do not want to spend any time wasting im 32 and want to settle down and have children and he doesnt want to start family any time soon either...... what should i do help ?????

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You're wasting even more time with someone who doesn't love you, AND doesn't want children now either. I think you should move on. I wish you all the luck in the world finding happiness.