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  • Jul 15, 2009, 06:03 PM
    sfklenfje
    Together for 7 months and now she wants to break up
    I have been with her for 7 months now. We were walking home from a movie and suddenly she asked if we can break-up. Surprised I asked her for the reason she wanted to break-up. She responded saying that she wanted to be single again and wanted to be free of the pressure of a relationship. Recently she had told me that a friend had told her that he like her. Since then she had been receiving gifts from him such has fishes (6 fishes now!) plushy bears, invites to movies just the 2 of them. He has also asked her to go biking just the two of them. She tells me there nothing to worry about and she would always love me. She had called me to talk after the movie. While we were talking she mentions why I don't tell her if I'm jealous of her friend always asking to go out with her and if I really care about our relationship. She hung up after that. I have a feeling she is dating him and she wants a smooth and easy way out of our relationship. I don't know what to do, should I just break-up like she wants or should I fight for our relationship.
  • Jul 15, 2009, 06:08 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    You can't force someone to WANT to be with you. She obviously doesn't. So move on. No contact for a while will help you heal. Good luck.
  • Jul 15, 2009, 06:08 PM
    Torrid13

    Break up with her. She's a fickle little girl.

    I hate to break it to you, but she does not love you. Nor does she respect you. In fact, I'm pretty sure you're not a priority for her at all.

    Lose her, go NC, and find someone that actually has a soul!
  • Jul 15, 2009, 06:19 PM
    0EntitY

    You have a few choices here. You can continue playing Her game and see what happens. You can break it off completely and move on and not look back. You can be an actor and play the part of breaking up with her, But with the sole purpose of getting her back. You Act like you want to move on and make it a point to talk-flirt with other girls knowing that this will get back to her. This forces her to make a decision to go back with you under your rules of the game or stay with this other guy.
    It really depends on how you view this relationship and scene here. Sometimes it's not an easy choice to make, but you know that you have to decide on something...
  • Jul 15, 2009, 06:26 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    Please, also, visit similar posts to receive A LOT of other advice that could help. Please scroll to the very bottom of the screen and click on one of the topics that's closest to your situation.

    You'll never find "THE ONE" if you don't move on from the girl that is toying with your heart and emotions.
  • Jul 15, 2009, 06:43 PM
    liz28

    Believe it or not this break-up was something in the making by her but she just had the courage to tell you.

    Maybe her friend gave her an utlimatium and she chose him.

    The good news is that now you are free from her and can move on to find a more suitable mate. Be glad this break-up happen in 7 months rather than 7 years.

    Know that all females aren't the same and always follow your intitution. She wasn't the girl for you especially if she had eyes for someone else.
  • Jul 15, 2009, 09:09 PM
    makapuu

    It seems as though your relationship was more on the friendship side, as opposed to a boyfriend/girlfriend dating thing. She told you this other guy liked her, and you knew of all the gifts he gave her. If you and she were in a serious relationship, she wouldn't be so chatty about other guys with you.

    I think your dating relationship is over.
  • Jul 15, 2009, 09:10 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    I agree with that as well..
  • Jul 15, 2009, 09:15 PM
    SwayRabbit

    She doesn't respect you, She's already dating the guy, and she isn't in it for the long run. You need to stop spending your time and money on her, take some time to yourself, and live up the single life. You'll find someone who will be everything you want, need and more if you avoid girls that send signals this your latest honey is doing.
  • Jul 15, 2009, 09:19 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    Well put- swayrabbit

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