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  • Jul 15, 2009, 11:29 AM
    jaluv42
    What should I do in this situation?
    Okay.This might be long and I apologize for that.Well,it all started last summer.My friend's cousin and I met.At first,I didn't really think we can be more than friends.But later after we started hanging out,we started to like each other more and more.Im 13 and he's 14 by the way.Anyways,his cousin(which is my friend)live in the same apartment as I do and he comes over every weekend and for summer.later after we started hanging out a lot his mother,sister,and grandma started to get overprotective and thought that we were spending too much time together and stuff.so they wanted me to stop seeing him,but we started hanging out anyway.and I heard from his friend that he old his sister that he likes me and he doesn't care we she thinks.I love him,I mean really love him now.ive known him since late 2007.I think he feels the same.I know that I'm not too young because I'm mentally mature for my age and I'm in love and I just don't know what id do without him,we've had so many memories and I haven't seen him since spring break,and my friend (which is his cousin) and I aren't really all that good anymore,we kind of drifted apart and I don't know what to do.im not sure if I should go over there because his grandma is there.or should I call?or what?what would you do in this forbidden love type thing?
  • Jul 15, 2009, 11:38 AM
    jmooney527
    I highly doubt you are in love. And yes, it is because you are too young. Just because you are mentally "mature" for your age does not mean you know what love is. What you have is a crush... maybe a very strong one, but a crush nonetheless.

    I wouldn't jump to conclusions and say you are in love with someone, especially if you haven't even started dating them. TRUST me you may think you are in love right now, but you will learn after many years of dating, etc that you aren't.

    I would throw the whole "love" thing aside and focus on the task at hand... you like a boy and his family does not approve of him seeing you anymore. There isn't much you can do besides honor his family's wishes. If the boy wants to go out of his way to see you, then let him do that... but it shouldn't be your responsibility to do all the legwork.

    Maybe send him a letter? If he has online maybe send him an email or something like that. Just remember not to focus on "oh my god I'm in LOVE" and focus more about you liking a boy and you want to explore the option of seeing him more.
  • Jul 15, 2009, 11:46 AM
    Torrid13

    You're way too young to be thinking, "I can't live without him!" I agree, I think you just have a strong crush. But anyway.

    You like him, he likes you, and his family doesn't want him to hang out with you. You both are too young to be able to disregard your parents' wishes, so I think it would be best to just let it go.

    When school starts, there will be other guys, and if this guy goes to the same school, then you guys can talk there, but don't expect it to go much further than that.

    Don't get so hung up on "being in love." Trust me, you've got years to "be in love," and have relationships with others. Right now, you're just too immature and young to be able to do much about anything.

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