I am a lesbian. In the beginning, my Partner and I had sex at least 2 times per day! My partner was very affectionate; she would always kiss me, ask for a kiss, hug me, had her hand on my leg while driving, she was always all over me. My partner would often say, "When is this honeymoon going to be over, I want you all the time"!
Now, 4 months later we rarely have sex or intimacy. If we have sex it may be twice a month. My partner never touches me anymore in any kind of way when we are alone. In public, she holds my hand sometime, touches my shoulder (the small touches). My partner does not kiss me hello or goodbye.
When trying to communicate my concerns and needs to my partner her response is that she is a very moody person and does not like to be touch (she states she has always been that way in every relationship), she is very stressed out at work, she is tired (classic), or that I am being too sensitive, etc. My partner is not loving towards me at all anymore. My partner has been to the dr. for her moodiness; but she refuses the medicines. She admits she is moody and mean (it hurts me sometimes)
Also, I am a full-figured woman (very sexy to me). In the beginning, she would always make comments about hour voluptuous I was, thick, warm and sexy in "my own way". Now, she makes cracks about my eating habits, cooking (never my weight). I am a former athlete, so I am still shapely; however, I am on meds for asthma that can effect your weight. At first she loved my body, does she still?
Please help me understand why my partner doesn't put in the work to love and meet my needs and why has her desire for me changed? She is adamant that she loves me, but I don't feel it of see it. HELP!
Tearfully,
Relationship6