If initial physical attraction, followed by positive emotional interest, positive time spent together and positive rewarding experiences is needed for a strong emotional bond, i.e. love.

Then once love has been lost because all or some of these were not present.

Then upon a re encounter, if these things are present then love could develop again between two people.

Is the a reasonable take on things ?

(Then is this only not possible, if there were negatives of emotion or other connections have been formed)

The way I see it is once love is gone its gone. Things will never be the same anymore or how it was once before. But on the other hand if 2 people lost their way from each other but love is still there, they will find their ways back to each other even if the other doesn't know that they still love them.

Using your words I would say
On re encounter you would have
Physical attraction
Emotional interest
Time spent together
Positive rewarding experiences
Here's where the proublem would be
Strong emotional bond
Once you have broken , the bond is damaged

BAH.
Once it's over, it's over. Relationships end for reasons, and those reasons are generally because people are jerks.

YAY!

[QUOTE=none12345;1856346]The way I see it is once love is gone its gone -QUOTE] I completely agree with this, it will never be the same. And knowing most people they'll bring up the passed and won't be able to let it go.

I am going against the grain here... once you fall in love with someone, and I am talking about deeply in love, I think there will ALWAYS be some sort of love for them, no matter what. I know I don't want my ex back, but I am not foolish enough to think that there isn't some love left for her buried deep down inside of me.

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but I am not foolish enough to think that there isn't some love left for her buried deep down inside of me.

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I think that's a different kind of love,I mean of course your going to have love for someone you shared so many things with.the op is talking about can you have that same level of love back after a break up,and your talking about just a basic love that could be liken to love thy nieghbor,or love of humanity.

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Originally Posted by zippit

i think thats a different kind of love,i mean of course your going to have love for someone you shared so many things with.the op is talking about can you have that same level of love back after a break up,and your talking about just a basic love that could be liken to love thy nieghbor,or love of humanity.

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I don't love any human like I love my ex... I have not had sex with 99% of the population, so your explanation is fairly out of context. When you fall in love with someone I do not really believe that love ever really dies... I just think it fades. In the most sincere fashion I can make it, I DO NOT love my nieghbor nor humanity in general... I care for them and don't wish them any harm, but don't get my words twisted.

To me love is like a candle... once it burns out, it can be re-lit, with the right circumstances presenting themselves.

I think if enough time passes, and things ended OK, then I believe that any love that two people have for each other can come back. Of course the relationship will not be the same as before, but that should be a good thing since something was wrong the first time.

However, this can not be forced, nor expected to happen. It MUST naturally happen on it's own and BOTH people must want to rekindle it.

I don't think people who were romantically involved, and who had a significant and positive impact on their partners lives, ever truly lose all of the love they had for someone. I think that given certain rare circumstances, old flames can get back together and form healthy intimate relationships IF the problems that occurred in the previous relationship have been worked on and resolved.

I think two people can fall in love with each other again.

Meh. I'd rather just find someone else.

I agree, though, that I will always love my ex in some way, but I'd rather saw my arms off than have to go through all that crap again. Which I know would happen. Noo thank you.

I'll just do that whole "bend and snap" thing that someone suggested, and I won't be lonely anymore! Yay! ;) (I'm kidding, for people that don't dig sarcasm).