Its honestly way too much to type but... We`ve been dating for two mth`s officially.. wonderful flirt she was. Now 2 months into it (we work together, just not in the same field) the compation I thought I saw is no where to be found. Its like she`s incapable of it.. she doesn`t think about me at all. I`m really skipping a lot but I hate to type.. we`ve only had one date and one lunch together.. we stayed a week at a cabin (which was absolutely awesome).. Sex is great for her, I promise. You can only fake so mue feels.. ch.. the sheets say the rest, anyway my point is.. Is that I shouldn`t have to ask for time with her.. its alway`s her family or a group of people it seems.. unless we are watching a movie or something along those lines.. Where is it when she comes up behind you and you FEEL so strongly with a hug, just how she feels. She won't open up to me to reply to the questions I have.. I don't know guy`s take this as best as you can and explain what I'm doing wrong here.. I`ve tried it all. I`ve never had this much trouble out of anyone. Its really driving me crazy, and that's why I`m here...

You expect too much for a couple of months, even if the sex is great. More dating, fun dates and less sex, so you can enjoy getting to know each other. My gosh man, your basically still strangers and have a lot more to learn about each other. Slowdown and pay attention to her as your moving to fast to be comfortable with each other.

Its unrealistic at this point to expect her to stop doing what she has been doing, and enjoys, and not a good idea for you to make her your whole focus either. Less is more. So plan some fun dates and give her fair notice and see what happens.

Too much, to fast, crash and burn. What's the hurry?

Why, in the name of all things chocolatey and crunchy, are you having sex after one lunch date. Why.

Get to know her first! She might be a little confused herself about ya'lls relationship and asking herself questions like, "Are we official?" "Is this a serious relationship?" "Is our relationship all about sex?" etc etc etc, and that might explain why she's not making a lot of time for you, because the relationship doesn't seem to be a clear one because it's so rushed.

Also, you should be glad she spends time with friends and family as well. It could be worse; she could be a clingy-monster! :O

Anyway, slow down, take her on more dates, and keep it in your pants until you know each other A LOT better!

Sheesh, you hardly know the girl (well emotionally, anyway) and you're trying to analyze the $hit out of the relationship already?

Perhaps she's just not that into you - sure the sex was great for a week - but perhaps she's had enough, you're too clingy, whatever. She's telling you she doesn't want to make the time for you and that she has better things to do. Or, she might just be a control freak and get her jollies by making you suffer. Who knows? You don't know her well enough to be able to tell.

Anyway, people's actions usually speak louder than their words.

Back off. Let go of expectation. It's uncomfortable but you may have to wait and see what happens.

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Bizcuit;.. we stayed a week at a cabin (which was absolutely awesome).. Sex is great for her,

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I don't know where you get they had sex after one date..
I would like to know if you have talked to her about this/if so what does she have to say about it

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Originally Posted by zippit

I don't know where you get they had sex after one date..

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One date and a lunch to be precise.

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we`ve only had one date and one lunch together.. we stayed a week at a cabin (which was absolutely awesome)..

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