Ok. So we have been together for over a year. I have been also dating anther girl who I live with for ten months. Now the one I live with I don't love any more. I only started dating her because me and my true love had just got together and well we aren't allowed to date. And still aren't. But we have been sneaking around just to be together. We ended up only getting to see each other and when we saw each other we only had time to have sex. She says she loves me and is still in love with me. She says she don't want any one else but she started to date someone else and doesn't know what she wants now. She says she wants space but she don't know how long it will take. She wants to be us but I'm with someone else and I can't leave her. I have no place to live and neither one want me to go into the military. I have no money and I have lost everything and everyone I used to know. I don't do drugs or even drink but I keep losing in life. I have never used any one for my own gain until now. We are really in love. What to do

What a mess.

You love her, but you date another because you are using the other.

I think you should find the way that you stand on your own two feet.

WITHOUT EITHER.

Had to spread the rep Justy...

Look, maybe you keep losing at life because you are a cheater. Yourself pitty is absolutely unreal. I hope you don't expect to find pitty on here. My advice: learn to be a man who doesn't cheat, doesn't need a female to make him happy and whom can hold his head high knowing that he will never break on his morals. Get your own act together and get out of this bad situation. Worry aout your money and your future as an independent adult first.

Correct me if I got this wrong,you were living with someone and dating this girl,and you were OK with this arrangement, now she is seeing you and dating someone else,and your not happy...
What goes around comes around.

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Why are you allowed to date one girl but not the other? I don't understand that.
Also don't let either girl shape your future. You said neither of them wanted you to go in the military. So your basing your future and life on some girls your cheating with and using? I guess your goals need to be set a bit higher. Your in a pretty sick mess and you need to be a man and get out and get a life and stop depending on the women your cheating on and the one your using.

You should leave both girls and get your life together back in track. It's quite a mess. Concentrate on yourself and there is a lot of thinking you need to do.

You're living with one girl and dating another? And now the girl your dating is not happy? Hard to figure out why! If you love the girl your dating then why do you need to be living with someone else? Hopefully both of these girls realize that you are a selfish cheater and get away from you as fast as they can.

I don't think many of us can make sense of your post.

At any rate, the problem is entirely with you, not the first of two girlfriends.

Second, who cares if neither one wants you to join the military? How old are you, 7? You can't make decisions on your own? If you feel the need to do something, do it.

Make a choice and stand by it for a change.