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  • Jul 14, 2009, 04:04 AM
    phoebe123
    My boyfriend smokes too much weed
    My boyfriend smokes weed every day and hans bongs with his friends. It only resin, but he's also quite paranoid in our relationship even though I've never cheated. Could this be why? Abd how can I get him to stop smoking weed? I nag at him, but there's only so much nagging you can do in arelationship...
  • Jul 14, 2009, 04:18 AM
    binx44

    Maybe the Reason he is paranoid in your relationship stems from another problem.. Some people have personal issues that cause them to be "paranoid" in most relationships they are in. Did he maybe have some bad experiences with women cheating on him? May I ask how old you guys are?
    In my opinion someone isn't going to stop doing something unless they want to. No matter how much nagging they hear. I don't think nagging is a good idea either. Have you tried sitting down and having a conversation with him. He might be willing to cut back or stop all together if you approach this as adults. I know lots of people that smoke A lot... and it all really depends on the person what they are like but I've never found that pot smokers are more paranoid because of it.. usually when it is drug induced paranoia its other drugs. I don't know much about the topic but I have offered what I could.
  • Jul 14, 2009, 04:19 AM
    N0help4u

    Nagging is only going to ruin your relationship people who smoke weed, drink or do any drugs are often going to choose their habit over you.
    I know quit a few guys that say smoking weed makes them paranoid, but I don't know if you are meaning paranoid or insecure and jealous.

    You can not make a person change. They have to WANT to change. He is probably who he wants to be. So you either accept him as he is or get out of the relationship because no nagging is going to make him change.

    As binx said there are several reasons he can be 'paranoid'.
  • Jul 14, 2009, 05:49 AM
    binx44

    True nohelp he may just go back to where he was after cutting back. But he may not.. every person is different
  • Jul 14, 2009, 05:53 AM
    jmjoseph
    How long have you two been together? When did he start smoking? Will he choose weed over you?
  • Jul 14, 2009, 12:37 PM
    N0help4u

    You need to find answers before you let your heart get too involved. I know some will love the person more but sometimes you have to look at worst case scenerios and then take it from there and hope for the best.
  • Jul 14, 2009, 07:22 PM
    twinkiedooter

    Find someone who does not smoke dope. It's much easier on you in the end.
  • Jul 14, 2009, 11:45 PM
    phoebe123

    Thanks for all your help guys :)
    Well we have been together almost 2 years now, we do get on really well but I think he's starting to get a bit too jelous that's why I thought it maight be weed. We are only 17.

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