This is my second husband no kids together,but 1 child his and 2 mine. I KEEP THINKING ITS GOING to get better,but it hasn't Our 2 year anniversary consisted of kids which I wanted because I don't see them. The ex wife came to pick up child for therapy and peeled out tires with kid in car because we were behind 2 child support payments which is my fault because I spent 60.00 on groceries this is the same with my ex husband whom I now pay child support and he has money. When I'm married to these s they're broke and yell at me. I'm not sure this is what I want do I hang in there or run? I mean I have 2 kids he helps me care for

First off, it is never your fault if you spent your money on groceries. Never think it is.
It is always better to feed your children than to pay the other parents for who knows what.

If I may ask, how old are you both?

It's a little hard to follow your meaning, but I'd assume neither you nor your current husband has custody?

What do you mean by "When I'm married to these s they're broke and yell at me"?


Don't blame yourself, as it's not your fault you fell into bad relationships.

I'm going to tell you that the people here, as far as I see the situation right now, aren't going to tell you to stay with him or leave him. However, everyone will need a little more information before giving you some better help.

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Originally Posted by karlaloves1god

This is my second husband no kids together,but 1 child his and 2 mine. I KEEP THINKING ITS GOING to get better,but it hasn't Our 2 year anniversary consisted of kids which I wanted because I don't see them. The ex wife came to pick up child for therapy and peeled out tires with kid in car because we were behind 2 child support payments which is my fault because I spent 60.00 on groceries this is the same with my ex husband whom I now pay child support and he has money. When I'm married to these s they're broke and yell at me. I'm not sure this is what I want do I hang in there or run? I mean I have 2 kids he helps me care for

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So, if I read this right, neither you or your husband have custody of the children, but you both pay child support. On the plus side, you are keeping your obligation to pay child support, and that's a good thing for sure.

Your husband is blaming you essentially for buying groceries, thus he wasn't able to keep his obligation to pay child support. $60.00 shouldn't break the bank, and cause two missed payments. Are you both employed?

You have only been married two years, and that is barely a drop in the bucket. Maybe it is not a good idea to so easily think of divorce at this stage of the game. You are going to hit very hard times along the way, and this issue is just one.

If money is a problem, see a credit counsellor, or your banker, arrange automatic debits into a savings account so you have the support payments always ready. If communication is the problem, seek out counselling. Often the first months of a relationship will test the limits of anybody- it is not uncommon to need help in sorting out marital problems.

All I can say is good luck, and work hard at finding solutions before you give up.

I would suggest that you and your husband should seek couple's therapy and see if the two of you could work it out and way out the pros and cons of the relationship. Remember that you are doing the best you can