So I started dating this guy that I lost my virginity to. He is 3 years older than me, I fell in love with him fast, even my mom loves him.. then I found out I was moving, so we decided to break up but still remain friends. Moving was getting post poned for a couple months later, we both still had strong feelings for each other and kept hanging out. He would always be there for me whenever I needed him to be and I couldn't help but still want to be with him more than anything. After a while we started acting like a couple again, we would be sexualy active. We weren't techinically together but kind of? He would talk to me all day and I was so happy. Then out of no where he stops talking to me because the thought that I would be moving away in 2 weeks. Finally my friend texted him and told him it was childish of him not to talk to me he said it was because there wasn't a point because I was moving across the country. Then my mom informs me that maybe we wouldn't be moving, that if I really wanted to stay she wouldn't move me away. So my other friend texts him (a week later) and tells him and talked to him and he basically said he doesn't want to be with me anymore. I don't understand what went wrong, he would tell me that if I was staying me and him would be together again. I don't know what to do. He's the only person that I want to be with...

I think until your plans are a lot more concrete he will stay away from you. Rightfully so on his part, as no one knows what the future brings you both. He is protecting himself. I don't think it wise to deal with each other through a third party either. Once you know for sure whats going on, then talk face to face, NO THIRD PARTY COMMUNICATIONS.

You owe each other better than that.

Just because the two of you were engaging in couple activities and having sex the truth remains that the two of you weren't a couple. If anything the two of you were friends with benefits.

Now he might have took advantage of the situation because he truly thought you were moving and didn't want anything serious with you--only fun. Now that he knows for sure you aren't moving nothing have change but his honesty towards the situation. Which is "he doesn't want to be bother by you nor want you".

Reading a person actions isn't hard and when they are ignoring direct communication from you then their actions are only speaking louder.

Bouncing back and forth has really confused him on whether he has a future with you.

No more finding things about him through a middle person. Talk to him directly.

Furthermore, the friends with benefits was definitely a bad idea. Everything is left in limbo during that time.

Until your plans are final, it's better to stay apart, so that neither of you have to put a deep commitement with each other.

On one hand, I think he was horribly confused, and perhaps a little offended your friend was scolding him. It's YOUR business, and you should keep it that way. Bringing others into your drama only makes it worse. It might even have turned him off about you quite a bit.

However, there's always that chance that he used you for sex, and a "fake" relationship. What would the consequences be? You'd move away, heartbroken, and he'd find someone else. And if you said (or your friend) you weren't moving away, then he would be nice again so you would keep giving.

But it's very hard to say, really.
But please. Talk to him yourself. Using friends to talk for you is very cowardly.

He is worried about getting too attached and you moving away. He has no idea what is going on, and neither do you, moving or not moving. It's too much back and forth, once a true answer has been determined things can start to be discussed.

Ps. Stop having your friends text him, it's only going to make matters worse