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  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:09 PM
    Zachebby
    How to get a girl to like you if she has a boyfriend
    All right I have a girl that is my neighbor and she has a boyfriend that is going to a small college. She is a Junior and I am a Sophomore in high school. We walked on trails at night talking about each others lives and we seemed to get a connection. Last night I called her cute and she went well with it.. how do I make her like me and dump her boyfriend...

    We text each other mildly but couldn't tonight because of her boyfriend was over and he is coming over again all tomorrow


    Help me
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:20 PM
    Wondergirl

    She's off-limits to you until she and her boyfriend break up. Then give her time to get over him so you are not a rebound.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:23 PM
    Zachebby
    So I can't even hang out with her or just talk to her
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:31 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Zachebby View Post
    so i can't even hang out with her or just talk to her

    You can be her friend, but not her boyfriend.
  • Jul 11, 2009, 07:18 AM
    roxypox
    Yeah, she is totally of limits dude!

    And yes you can be friends with her but personally I really frown upon the type of senario that involves you being friends with her so that she will like you, break up with him and then be yours... be her friend and nothing more... as for dating find some other girl to date!

    She is taken, and that should be respected!
  • Jul 11, 2009, 07:28 AM
    s_cianci
    Quote:

    how do I make her like me and dump her boyfriend...
    You don't. You can talk and be friends but as long as she has a boyfriend it's hands off. Now if she chooses to end things with him strictly of her own accord then and only then you can pursue your options.
  • Jul 11, 2009, 08:01 PM
    babyshooter11

    Yeah, don't break them up. If it's meant to be then it will happen.
  • Jul 12, 2009, 02:15 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Zachebby View Post
    so i can't even hang out with her or just talk to her

    As a friend yes, but forget moving her boyfriend out, and taking up with you. That's a stretch, and your wrong for even trying. That's not what friends do, so if you can't handle friends, leave her alone and get your own female.
  • Jul 12, 2009, 06:56 PM
    bassplaya284049
    My advice on getting her to dump him.

    1 wait till they have a fight

    2 talk to her and tell her to try talking to him and get him to understand

    3 suggest she dump him during the conversation

    4wait and then ask her out
  • Jul 13, 2009, 06:17 AM
    roxypox
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bassplaya284049 View Post
    My advice on getting her to dump him.

    1 wait till they have a fight

    2 talk to her and tell her to try talking to him and get him to understand

    3 suggest she dump him during the conversation

    4wait and then ask her out

    Are you kidding me??

    Seriously?

    This is a bad way to get someone. Why play games with people and mess with their lives? People have the bf/gf that they have for a reason, and to be friends with someone just to get them to dump their significant other so that they'll be available for you... is disgraceful in my book.

    Don't lower yourself, she is unavailable... and if you can't be a true friend (in the real sense of the word) don't be a friend at all.
  • Nov 19, 2009, 11:48 AM
    slapshot_oi
    I don't think it's wrong to go ahead with your plan. If it so happened that she did end her relationship because of you, it doesn't make you the bad guy, she made the decision.

    It's a huge risk to your ego when you try something like this. If she wanted you, she'd let you know one way or the other. But, what happens to most guys in this situation, is the girl in question leads the love-struck guy on by keeping him in her life but at a safe distance. She just uses him whenever she's bored or having a rough time, you will be relegated to the friendzone and become entangled in an emotional affair.

    Long story short, chances are you're the one who's going to get burned by this. You're better off not to even try.
  • Nov 19, 2009, 04:05 PM
    jaime90

    You are trying to get her to break up with her boyfriend, and like you instead? That's a disaster waiting to happen. I suggest not taking walks alone with her at night- that is extremely disrespectful to the man that she is currently involved with- how would you like it if your girlfriend did the same? You'd probably beat the guy up- I know I would (in my case, it would be a woman... I'd still beat her up.) Also, it's very cruel of her to be playing along with this while she is with another guy- that tells you how serious she is when it comes to relationships- not very. You both are being very naïve, and I feel terrible for this girl's boyfriend. She is off limits. Leave her alone before something awfull comes of this.
  • Nov 24, 2009, 03:10 PM
    Krayzie2k
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bassplaya284049 View Post
    My advice on getting her to dump him.

    1 wait till they have a fight

    2 talk to her and tell her to try talking to him and get him to understand

    3 suggest she dump him during the conversation

    4wait and then ask her out

    I assume this is a joke. 1. If you try this, you may have more on your hands than a new girl to play with. 2. Would you like another guy trying to break you and your girlfriend up? 3. If you go about it this way and it actually works, it won't last.
  • May 17, 2010, 10:53 AM
    Benbostian

    OK, Dude HONESTLY think about what your doing man.. Ima football player have been all my life. But I'm very in touch with my emotional side especially with girls... Saying that think about it.. OK, so she does break up with her boyfriend for you.. what do you think will happen to you the next time you get in an argument.. she will be on to the next one..

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