In my work, we have a very nice, sweet and hard working girl. She is around 30 years old, seeing a guy, and he stopped at our cafeteria a couple days ago. The guy is so physical, and has so much huge & wild tatoos all over his body include around his neck. He even has a piercing on his togue. My work place is very formal dress coded place, and everyone in the office looked away from him. It seems they are very new to each other, but she seems into him. He has attitude, and the way he looks at people (rather ladies in office) was very annoying.

I am so concerned that he is a bad boy type, and he might hurt her after for a while. Is it fair to think that way? Why do guys are getting tatoos? Any comment? Should I say something to the girl? She is so nice girl, and I do not want to see her hurt. The girl and guy are totally different people. Is it opposite attraction or mistake?? Should I be quite since she is old enough?

She is so nice a girl and she is THIRTY years old, she surely doesn't need anyone's advice on who she can or can not date.

You are making judgements on his appearance, which says nothing about his personality and frankly, it's not your business - what he does with his body or who she dates.

I'm curious as to why its anything to do with you. You met the guy once. I'm not saying that in a nasty way.. he may be a perfectly nice guy.
If she is really into him then let her decide herself,she may not appreciate you voicing your opinion on her boyfriend.

Why judge a book by its cover? My boyfriend has full sleeves (both of full arms) tattooed, and let me tell you he is the most wonderful boyfriend, father, man, person that I have ever met.

You can't judge someone based on their outward appearance.

So, he stuck out where she worked. I'm sure he felt just as uncomfortable as they did.

No, it's not fair to think that way. You don't know him, you are a judging him. People get tattoos to express themselves or to pay tribute to memories, everyone has their own reasons. No one can tell if it's the opposites attract rule or if it's a mistake, only she can. You should be quiet about this, she might get offended if you comment anything you've said here because you don't know him.

I wouldn't say a word to her. For one its not your business. It may make her uncomfortable of his appearance when at this point she is happy with him. Why not leave them be. Get to know him through her and see how he is treating her and the reason behind his tats. I am sure he was aware of all the stares and looking away. Don't make an issue where there isn't an issue.

It doesn't sound like you know her that well. It really is none of your business. You have no facts other than judging someone like their appearance to even justify your concerns.

I guess I should not worry about it or mention it. The last thing I want to do is hurting her feeling. I hope it works out well for her. Thanks for your opinion.

Good, glad to hear.

For all you know she's got piercings and tattoos in places you can't see. Some people can surprise you. :)

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

for all you know she's got piercings and tattoos in places you can't see. Some people can surprise you. :)

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Yup!

Maybe you really like this girl yourself! Or are you really looking out for this girl, so she doesn't get hurt?

Ultimately it's out of your hands. While your concern for your coworker is admirable, she has to make her own decisions and, if need be, learn her own lessons. Remember, you can't judge a book by its cover and what your coworker chooses to do and whom she chooses to associate with on her own time is her business. I suppose a case can be made that he's not to visit her during business hours at your place of business if his presence is so disruptive. But aside from that it's beyond your control.

I get your concern, but its not your business. At 30, hopefully she can make her own decisions. Stay quiet, as tattoos don''t mean he is a bad individual.

Even if your right, its still her business to deal with.