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  • Jul 8, 2009, 10:31 AM
    RaisedNcalie
    Will my ex Girlfriend come back to me?
    Hi everyone I will get rite to the chase, my ex girlfriend and I have gone are separate ways. We have been dating for three and half years. I’m 22 and she’s 19,We as a couple have are up and downs, no relationship is perfect. During the past 6 months she has been communicating with her ex boyfriend while I have been unaware. She has recently gone threw allot of family problems, which involved a bitter divorce between her mom and dad. I’m trying to give as much information as I can and rite to the point. She recently left for vacation to go to Hawaii with her ex boyfriend and his mom and dad, the sad thing is….I didn’t know she was going with her ex! Basically there has been allot of lying going on in are relationship. Before she left are fights where increasing and we both felt we needed some time apart. I never thought that this was the kind of time she needed though. I was upset that she lied to me it hurt! For three and a half years we loved each other more than anything! When she came back though I talked to her and asked her if anything sexual happened she replied never! She said I might be allot of things but I’m not that kind of girl. I believe her….and I know as a reader its hard to assume u go to Hawaii for a week with another man and lie about everything…so why wouldn’t she just lie about sleeping with him. And it’s a good question I don’t know for sure, as far as I’m concerned she didn't but at this point I don’t know. All I can say is the conversation that we had seemed like all the cards where on the table. But now as I write this, we as a couple are not together and she is talking to her ex boyfriend. It has only been two weeks since all of this has happened, I guess I feel shocked and confused, because this isn’t like her. I realize she has had allot of family problems within the past year, that might have brought on this sudden change in her. I guess the reason why I’m writing this is because I’m hurt and confused and sad all I think about is how much I want our relationship to work. I find myself calling her trying to find out what I did wrong. She says she left because she felt smothered and went as friends, but I don’t understand why she talking to this guy. I have to say he’s a total dush he’s the complete opposite of me, If anyone has some good advise I’m all ear’s. like I said its just hard to stop loving someone who I cared so much about. Deep down I really want her back….I know that’s sad to say considering what she did to me…but I do. If anyone has advise I could use it.
  • Jul 8, 2009, 10:39 AM
    dreamingartist

    If she slept with him in the past then she absolutely slept with him in the future.

    WHy would she tell you she slept with him?

    She doesn't love you, you love her... get it straight


    Right now if she lies and says they didn't sleep together then she can say, you are so controlling and pushy and you don't trust me and I can't believe your smothering me, and your annoying me, etc..

    But if she said Yes, yes we had sex.

    Then what.? Then you want to know, was it good, did she enjoy it, how many times, plus your crushed, you want to kill the XBF, plus she becomes trash to you and then the tables are turned... or whatever... she wants to keep you interested and she wants to NOT feel guilty and NOT look like the bad guy.
  • Jul 8, 2009, 11:06 AM
    RaisedNcalie

    Well she didn't in the past but yeah your deff right... if she did she's not going to tell me. This is just really hard... she acts like she wants to be with me... but then she doesn't know what she's wants?
  • Jul 8, 2009, 02:30 PM
    Romefalls19

    Stop the games and cut off contact with her. It's called being a good dog, waiting for her to through you a bone every now and then. Stop waiting around, cut the chit chat and move on!

    Who cares if she slept with him or not, you were broken up, her personal life is NONE of your business.
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  • Apr 19, 2011, 02:14 AM
    amicon

    Old post.

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