Oke, this was my first boyfriend. We met at college and he was the first boy I kissed en had sex with. I wanted to wait for some one that I thought was special and he was.
He is in the same group of friends as I am in college. At the beginning this was a very positive thing. This is how he got to know me an I hem. He knew everything about me and I about him before we even were a couple. After 3 months of flirting and stuff he finely ‘dared’ to kiss me because he also knew I never kissed someone so (and I quote) “ I wanted to make shure I really liked you and wanted to know if this would go somewhere.”
Our relationship only lasted for 3 month but it felt for so much longer and it felt so right.
But now 2 months later I’m still very upset. At the first month I had to see him because he is in the same group of friends as I am and in de same classes. But now (just a week ago) started a vacation and it will last for 6 weeks. I thought I would be able to forget him now I don’t see him every day but is still hard. I look at his Facebook page and if I see a new girl on it, I immediately check if she is single if she is I get so upset! I feel so stupid! I know because we are in de same group of friends I eventually will see him with another girl. But how things are looking I don’t think I will ever get over him. True, he was my first well… everything. Our real relationship only lasted for about 2 months before he called it quits. I must say the last 2 weeks he became a bit distant with me but I thought it was just because he had some very very big problems (he wouldn’t tell me what). But I hoped that when his problems where over every thing would return back to normal. But it didn’t
I hope someone can help me get over him, please!

Thanks allot

Get rid of Facebook and get rid of anything that reminds you of him. To get over someone you have to erase them from your life, period. No more of the Facebook BS!

He was the first person you had sex with and fell in love with, so that is going to be tough to get over, but you will if you quit digging into his life. He is dead to you, so treat it that way. Find some other friends for the time being, don't hang out with them if he is around. Do whatever you have to do to avoid him...

I'm sorry you're going through a hard time: broken hearts are cruel.

Personally, I think you gave him too much too soon, especially with the whole sex thing. And especially because he was your first. My guess is that after you had sex, you became very clingy and attached, which probably scared him. If he really liked you, I think he would have taken more time to get to know you and bond with you, even if he already "knew everything about you." I don't know, it all seems extremely rushed.

Also, DELETE HIM FROM FACEBOOK. Do it. Why? Because if you don't, you're going to look at his page EVERYDAY, and everyday it will make you more upset, and you'll never get over it. It's hard, I know, but you'll drive yourself crazy if you're always trying to "check up" on him. In fact, I would take it a step further and block him completely; that way he can't send you messages or find you or communicate with you at all on FB.

Find new friends, too.
Good luck.

I know this was your first everything, and sorry it didn't last longer, but if you stop looking into what he is doing from afar, and build a life that you enjoy, with your own group of friends, and activities, you will begin to heal, and move forward with your life.

You can't look back, and be sad for what you had, so focus on what the future brings. Its so rough now, but in time, it will get better.

We all go through this, and some a few times, but we all heal from it, and so will you. Sucks now while you go through it though, I know.

I'd say that the first step would be to forgive yourself. You wanted to lose your virginity to someone special and for those two months, he was. You need to accept that and move on. College is a place for higher education. You just had a crash course. You are young, go have fun.