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  • Jul 7, 2009, 06:22 AM
    haileyblue
    I am pregnant is it wrong to want sex!
    Hi I am 37 weeks pregnant and as most people no when you are pregnant you can become (lack of a better word) HORNY! I really want sex but my boyfriend always avoids it as much as possible I know he wants to but not while I am pregnant. I try to talk to him but he get all awward when ever I do. I think he doesn't want to affend me or upset me as I am pregnant. I am trying so hard not to pressure him into doing it but as we all know when you want it it hard not to put a little pressure and it has been 4 months since we last had sex and he wants to wait until after but after pregnany I could possible not be able to have sex for awhile and we will have a baby to look after! Is it wrong for me to want to have sex while I am so pregnant?
  • Jul 7, 2009, 07:49 AM
    Synnen

    It's not wrong for you to want sex while you're pregnant.

    It's also not wrong for him to NOT want sex while you're pregnant.

    You need to have a long, serious, open and frank conversation about this with each other.

    Some men absolutely are NOT turned on by their partner pregnant. Some men are. Some men are afraid of hurting the baby, some men are afraid of hurting you--the list goes on and on.

    So... unless you know HIS reasons, and have discussed ways to work around his reasons, that's where you need to start.

    If he absolutely doesn't want to play while you're pregnant, well---invest in a vibrator.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 11:47 AM
    jenniepepsi

    All of this is completely normal. Your emotions and hormones are heightend which can cause increas in sex drive.

    Also its normal for him not to want to have sex for every reason synnen said. He may feel that its dangerous.

    Talk to him about how your feeling. If you would like, have him come with you to an ob/gyn appointment and ask the doctor himself if its OK or not. This may give him peace of mind.

    Above all TALK to him about your feelings.

    And as synnen said, if all else fails, a vibrator can be a good thing.

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