Should I move on or should I wait it out?
I apologize for the length already, but to fully understand my situation I feel I have to give the whole story.
So this girl I've been dating for about 4 months now tells me she needs time to clear her head... well let me start from the beginning
I met this girl at the gym I've been going to for years... She approached me
After a few weeks I notice how clingy and affectionate towards me she was, and to be honest it scared me some what, but I didn't run because I realized how much fun we had together and how much we both complemented each other. There were times when I told her I didn't feel like coming over and that I just wanted to hangout with my friends and it seemed like she would beg me to come or act sad that I was hanging out with just the guys.
Ok, so as time is going on we are spending a lot of time together (I thought it would be a mistake, but it just seemed to go right over my head because things were going great). So after all this time I started developing feelings for her because of what she told me, her affection towards me, and her eagerness to be with me.
So this leads to the first mistake I made we became official (which I feel she gave me strong hints that she wanted to) but any way it was too soon, happening about a month and a half after meeting each other. I guess it just didn't seem that soon at the time because we were spending so much time together, nearly every day, and I felt like we both knew each other fairly well and had strong feelings for her.
About a month goes by. Hits the fan one day after we had dinner and she ends up telling me she's still not over her previous relationship, doesn't want to be with him, just needs time to heal. And gave me a bunch of crap saying she feels like she can't give her full heart to me because she's not over that situation, but wants to be with me. She then says she wants to take a couple steps back and that she needs time to clear her head... now I'm confused and pissed, but I didn't show too much anger because I'm too nice of a guy and I still really liked this girl.
So I leave and don't talk to her the next day until she texted me that night, wich I made the conversation short, but not in an angry way. So then I don't initiate anything the next day because I figure she wanted time, but low and behold what does she do she starts texting me later that night and asks me to come over and hang out (second mistake I made... I went over and we had a good time and things were back to normal) I should have waited and for her to get her together... damn it
So the next month and a half we got a long great, but were back to being together nearly everyday... which I did not initiate 80% of the time just because of what had happened before... her saying she needed time and all that crap. But things were going great and I was developing stronger feelings for her.
So during all these good times there were a few things that bothered me, but hey I'm an easy going guy so I didn't let it get to me too much. The things were she kept mentioning her ex boyfriend, just like the one day she made a big deal the when we saw his car. So I sat down with her and told her that her talking about her ex in front of me and telling me things about him makes me feel like just because you basically told me your still in love with him, but you say you don't want to be with him. I told her if she was still talking to him that I think we need to take some time apart which she says she only does occasionly. She starts to freak out and said, what is this it your just ending it?
So we talk a while longer I leave by giving her a long hug ( which I feel now was a goodbye one) and tell her goodnight. So when I get home she starts texting me you're a great guy blah blah blah I never meant to lead you on... uhh well you did very good job at it (me thinking) I have strong feelings for you blah blah blah and then the classic phrase "i just need some time to clear my head" I say OK ill give your space to figure things out. She says I don't want this to be good bye and I agreed. She said thank you for understanding... ha at that moment I was so confused I was no where near fronm understanding.
So a friend of mine ended up seeing her out the one night and she was talking about our situation and said something like he won't even talk to me?"???? So then i decided to text her on the fourth (5 days after we had the talk) to wish her a happy one and i asked how she had been doing? She replies, "I'm all right... happy 4th" and thats it. So then the next day she randomly texts me and says, "Hey I just say your mom." I reply, "oh did you guys talk." She says, "yea we had a brief convo" and that was it.
So all I'm asking for is for someone to read this and help me out. Should I move on? Was she just making an excuse to text me yesterday? Or what was that about because she didn't need to tell me that you know? Do I initiate anything? AHH I'm so confused and hurt