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  • Jul 6, 2009, 03:01 PM
    Jashin-Teen
    How can I find my biological parents?
    I have no idea who they are, what they do, are what the heck they look like. I have no information, and I just want to know. :(
  • Jul 6, 2009, 03:55 PM
    JudyKayTee

    Please read https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adopti...ml#post1824594
  • Jul 6, 2009, 04:23 PM
    jenniepepsi

    You may have to hire a private investigator to find them.

    Is your biological parents names on your birth certificate? If it is, GovVitalRecord.com - Comprehensive Online Vital Records and Statistics Searches may be able to help you find them. But of course, like everything, it costs money.
  • Jul 6, 2009, 06:41 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    If it is a sealed adoption there is little you can do, those records will not be available.

    Have you asked your parents, ( adopted) normally they would have some info. I know after my mom died, she had a journal with all the info, who the real parents were, where they were from and more.
    ** I had already found out, thouigh some other means but in the adoption, there is normally info available.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 07:35 AM
    Synnen

    How old are you? Were you adopted as an infant?

    We need more information, because the year the adoption took place is actually VERY important here.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 09:05 AM
    Jashin-Teen
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Synnen View Post
    How old are you? Were you adopted as an infant?

    We need more information, because the year the adoption took place is actually VERY important here.

    I'm 15, and yeah I was adopted as an infant.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 09:06 AM
    Jashin-Teen
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    If it is a sealed adoption there is little you can do, those records will not be avalable.

    Have you asked your parents, ( adopted) normally they would have some info. I know after my mom died, she had a journal with all the info, who the real parents were, where they were from and more.
    ** I had already found out, thouigh some other means but in the adoption, there is normally info available.

    I know, normally they would know, but everythime I ask my parents what they were like, they state they either forgot or didn't really pay attention. I don't if they're lying or what, but it gets on my nerves..
  • Jul 7, 2009, 10:01 AM
    Just Dahlia
    Why do you want to find them?
  • Jul 7, 2009, 10:26 AM
    artlady

    Talk to your parents and tell them your reasons for wanting to know who your birth parents were.

    Explain in a calm and mature manner why this is important to you and ask them for their help.

    They may be feeling put off by your request,so try to understand their feelings as well.

    Know that some birth parents do not wish to be contacted and choose to have a closed adoption for that reason.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 11:32 AM
    Synnen

    We cannot help a minor with a search for biological parents.

    You need to talk to your adoptive parents about this.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 12:42 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jashin-Teen View Post
    I'm 15, and yeah I was adopted as an infant.


    Unfortunately, because you are a minor, only your adoptive parents can help you with this.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 03:52 PM
    Just Dahlia
    You need to talk to your parents, the ones who have loved you and raised you for 15 years and will keep on doing it no matter what. :)

    If you are just curious, than they might be able to help you, but you need to let them know why, they will understand, they ARE your parents.

    They took on the responsibility of adopting you because they wanted you more than anything else in the world (it's not an easy process), please keep that in mind.

    At your age you are going through a lot of things and questions are always asked (even if your not adopted) remember that.

    Because you brought it up I'm sure your parents are very concerned and hurt in a way, again you need to talk to them about your feelings.:)

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