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  • Jul 6, 2009, 02:05 PM
    debs75
    Cheating boyfriend
    I left my husband for a married man who left his wife for me.wrong I know but we fell in love.cut long story short... he moved into an aptment, I stayed in my marital home,with my daughter,we saw each other every day .and I stayed at aptment fri sat and sun nites!then he would come to mine at 10pm week nites,then I found out he had been having drinks with girl in other aptment from 12 until 2am in the morning a few nites awk,we were so happy, I couldn't beleve it when I found text on his phone.this is a man that used to get a cob on if I got a text from a male friend,re work! she told me that he asked her lots of times to stay over but she never, he has also had sex text with other girls whilst being with me, any way he paid £600 to do lie detector test which came back that he hadn't slept with any! Although he would have,if that girl would have said yes.its been 7mths and were fighting threw it,he doesn't give his num out or has any contact with these people.he admits being a bad man and said he has changed .he had never been caught before and is upset what he did to me.I want to forgive,but I have a prob? I'm very insecure and as he has admitted he likes big boobs in the past I can't bare to go to the beach,baths,and I hate the summer!I'm 34 a chest so I'm ed basically!?
  • Jul 6, 2009, 02:13 PM
    jenniepepsi

    He was already willing to leave his wife for another married woman... what makes you think he will not do the same to you... or yourself for that matter... this does NOT sound like a relationship made in heaven to me...
  • Jul 6, 2009, 02:16 PM
    I wish

    I agree that he has not given you much reason to feel secure.

    However, it does sound like he's willing to put an effort, £600 for a lie detector test is not cheap.

    Try to approach it this way. He has definitely broken your trust, so he has to earn it back slowly. You are in the control seat. If you really care about him and you feel that he's making good progress, then I don't see any reason for you to break up.

    But if you continue to have the same doubts without progress, then don't settle for that. Don't allow yourself to suffer in a relationship. Make it a clean break and move on.
  • Jul 6, 2009, 02:16 PM
    I wish
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jenniepepsi View Post
    he was already willing to leave his wife for another married woman...what makes you think he will not do the same to you...or yourself for that matter...this does NOT sound like a relationship made in heaven to me....

    Well, she left her husband too, so they are in the same boat.

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