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  • Jul 5, 2009, 09:24 PM
    fltstxo830
    My boyfriend broke up with me because of my parents?
    I am 19 and my ex is 21. Tomorrow it would have been 8 months for us going out. I love him so much. Before, he "broke" up with me, but it was a two day break, but then he came back loving me more than ever. We have shared soooo much together, and we have done everything together. However, even though he is 21, sometimes he acts like a baby. For example, he'll want to stop hanging out because he has a "tummy ache" or a "headache." I looked over that, because his good outweighs the bad. However, my father just got laid off, so we're not as financially comfortable as we used to be. My parents have been on edge, and taking it out on me a little bit. My ex saw that, he got upset, however he promised he wouldn't let it come between us. However, last night we were supposed to go to see fireworks, the 4th of July is my favorite holiday, and he knows that. All of a sudden he starts blowing up on me, and then he hangs up the phone... and breaks up with me over a text message. I couldn't believe it. He didn't tell me why though, he left me hanging until today when he told me, over aim not even over the phone, that it was because of my parents. He said he loved me yesterday, but then he said I don't love you anymore because of my parents. I told him it was very cowardly to break up with me through text and his response was "i did it in person last time, so i don't care this time." I have never felt so degraded and low by the person I love. And the sad thing is, is that I forgive him right away and I still love him. So my question is... do you think it really is because of my parents? Do you think I should still be loving him as much as I do? If you need any more details let me know!
  • Jul 5, 2009, 09:32 PM
    mudweiser

    I am sorry your going through a tough time.

    I'm also seeing some red flags; the "tummy and headaches" and the sudden blow up seem a little fishy to me hon.

    It really seems like he has something else up his sleeve- I don't believe he broke up with you for the reason he told you. I also doubt that he loved you, there may have been some exchange of words and feelings but his actions tell me the opposite.


    Keep us posted,

    AMHD is here for support.

    Sarah
  • Jul 7, 2009, 09:51 AM
    Torrid13

    If he truly loved you, your parents would not stop him from being with you.

    I agree with mudweiser... red flags. All over the place.

    Actions speak much louder than words, and unfortunately his actions are screaming that he doesn't care or respect you.

    Be lucky it didn't go on for longer than almost 8 months. Take some time to mend your heart, and you'll find someone you who thinks you're the cat's pajamas. Keep your chin up, Darlin'.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 09:57 AM
    jenniepepsi

    I agree with mudweiser and torrid. Its time to move on. Its hard, and its not fair. But he obviously didn't love you enough. You don't want to settle for a guy who doesn't love you enough. You know? You need someone who will love you MORE THAN ANYTHING! No matter what happens.

    *hugs* good luck hon.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 09:59 AM
    artlady

    He appears very childish and selfish.
    Breaking up with you because of your parents just does not ring true.It sounds like a lame excuse.
    If you want to be with someone ,you strive to make it work and don't just throw in the towel when things get a little difficult.
    No one falls in and out of love such as he has said in a matter of hours.
    I think you should thank your lucky stars you didn't invest anymore time in this relationship.
    Be strong and know that your future is brighter without him in it.
  • Jul 7, 2009, 10:40 AM
    talaniman

    You will be a lot happier with some one who really cares, and doesn't give you lame excuses to break up.

    Now your free to get someone a lot better, who understands, and cares about you.
  • Jul 20, 2009, 03:32 PM
    emmaaaaaaaaa

    Hey Im 16 N my Boyfriend was 17. We had a Great relationship. He got my Name tattooed on his back. And he proposed to me. Everythin was going great until one day I was messing with one of my mates while he was there and he went mad and broke up with me I was so upset I ended up putting myself in Hospital. He got back with me after that. And everything was good again and then he cheated on me with a 22 year old Travler with 2 kids. Now he hates me and wants nothing to do with me. And he says its because my mam txted him saying to stay away from me. Today I gave him the engagement ring back and I'm upset as anything I feel like and ugly and worth nothing but he said to me once before if its meant to be faith will bring us back together. But I think that's . I gave him anything he wanted made him dinner let him live with me for 2 months then he goes and treats me like this I don't know what to do.

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