So I've had this small crush on this girl at my work but never said anything to her about it. Last night she went out to the bars with her friends for her birthday and invited me. Near the end of the night, we were both pretty drunk and flirting with each other heavily. Things started to get a little physical with touching and kissing on the neck. It was then I told her that I thought she was really sexy. We started to get more physical and made out for like a second. At one point she even slid her hand down my pants!

She stopped and said that we shouldn't do this because we work together and she want to make things weird. She said that if we didn't work together she would totally make out with me. I told her I respected her decision.

I woke up this morning and I just feel really really bad. I feel like I was inappropriate with her by being physical with her (even though she was physical with me also). I feel like I made the wrong decision by telling her she was sexy and that I was attracted to her. At the same time, I still do have a crush on her and wish we could have taken things further. I feel like her using the "we work together" excuse may be her way of telling me she isn't really interested. I doubt that because if she wasn't slightly interested, none of what happened last night would have happened.

I don't know what to do. I don't want things to be awkward. Should I pull her aside on Monday and talk to her about it and apologize to her about being inappropriate? Should I just stop pursuing her at all?

I don't think she's using it as an excuse-- she did make out with you and put her hands down your pants.

Hmm.. which makes me think; she's a fast one. Usually, in my opinion, easy girls don't make good girlfriends. Just something to think about....

I wouldn't pull her aside, why not try to get to know her? Be friends with her? Perhaps her getting to know you better would change her mind about starting to date you, and perhaps you getting to know her better would also help you learn more about her other than knowing she's "sexy".

I wouldn't think much about if I were you, nor would should you be feeling bad; it was a consensual kiss or make-out session.

Keep us posted:)

Sarah

Don't put too much weight on last night. She's obviously somewhat attracted to you, otherwise, she wouldn't have made out with you.

Focus on talking to her and getting to know her better. No need to rush the physical stuff, because you don't know her that well yet. But keep in mind, office romance is usually not recommended. So be prepared to transfer out of your team/department or change jobs.

Well, its Monday and she called out sick from work today. I was really nervous driving into work today thinking about our first encounter since that other night. I am going out of town for the next two days so I won't see her until Thursday. Maybe she was feeling the same way and decided to call off work to avoid seeing me. Who knows.

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Originally Posted by Cristoforo

Well, its Monday and she called out sick from work today. I was really nervous driving into work today thinking about our first encounter since that other night. I am going out of town for the next two days so I won't see her until Thursday. Maybe she was feeling the same way and decided to call off work to avoid seeing me. Who knows.

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That's what I was thinking. She called in sick to avoid you. Which would be childish if that were the case. Lets hope not.
You were both drinking you said. Your better judgement was off and so was hers. Would it have happened had you not both been drinking no one knows. But just ride it out. If she is weird with you at work then apologize and be done with it. If she is cool with you at work then maybe there is a chance she is interested also. Take it from there. But as already mentioned you might want to see what your company policy is. I am guessing dating co-workers is out. Causes to many issues.