Im 16 and I have a 14 year old sister, we fight constantly. I don't mean to but I get so angry with her I feel out of control. I don't know how to get along with her, everyone says to deal with it. They say its just sibiling rivarly but I thin she really hates me sometimes.

Please, I need help. I need to stop getting so angry with her, our mom passed away in April and my dad is not great with teenage girls. I don't want her to hate me.

Did you ever ask her if she does hate you and why?
Maybe try being more an older sister and example to her.
I use to get angry with my sister and fight her. When I got in my 20's I realized how stupid it was and that I hadn't acted the way I did. When you get older you can't take back the way you acted and treated people when you were younger.

Maybe your sister is just venting her anger to you, maybe that's the way she is grieving. You know only the people you really love can get you that mad. She's going to watch you because your setting the examples for her. Sorry to hear about your mother, growing up is hard enough. Just count to ten and just breath in with the good and out with the bad. These times will pass in time. Good Luck. I'm sending you a hug too.0

I'm sure your sister doesn't hate you. She is also at a hard time in her life being at the very emotional age of 14 and losing a mother. I'm very sorry that your family has suffered the loss of your mother. Try talking to your sister when she is in a somewhat better mood and find out what is wrong besides the obvious. Plus like unluckynut said it could be her way of venting her feelings onto you. Good luck.

Well I'm about the same. My sister scares me sometimes she's super nice but then there are times were she gets mad about the littlelest things and she starts chasing me with a knife! No joke! Itz really scary. So I say talk to her, it'll be hard she'll blow you off but try, and try to show her that you care for her some way or another

She chases you with a knife? That's a red flag right there... Ask your dad to seek therapy for both of you, you need as much support as you can get, especially if your little sister is venting by chasing you with a knife. I'm also terribly sorry about your mom, it must be hard, just breathe in and out and enjoy yourself in a nice bath when you can. For now, talk to your sister and ask her what's going on and how she feels about life, if she knows that you are lending an ear then she'll probably appreciate you much more, soon enough the hardships in your family will bring you two closer together.

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well I'm about the same. My sister scares me sometimes she's super nice but then there are times were she gets mad about the littlelest things and she starts chasing me with a knife! no joke! itz really scary. So i say talk to her, it'll be hard she'll blow you off but try, and try to show her that you care for her some way or another

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Sounds exactlly like her. She just laughs when I try to have a serious talk with her.