Hi I have been chatting online and or via text with someone I met online for about 5 weeks now. We have gone out for dinner twice and things went well. Last week he sent me a message stating that he was watching his nephews that weekend but that he wanted to get together with me for a third date at some point that weekend.. well that never happened seeing as he went out with the kids on both days and when we chatted via text he never mentioned again about going out. He is someone who plays tennis and has practices and of course every Wednesday night is guy's night. Needless to say we may chat online 1 or if I'm lucky 2 times a week or just a few text messages via phone. I have asked him if he is still interested in me and if not to please just let me know so that we can both move on... of course he said he was but said that he wants to take things slow... I was shocked as seeing as I'm not moving fast at all. I'm not asking for a commitment... I just said that I thought the relationship/friendship would move forward not backward. See we started chatting online for about 2 weeks prior to our first date and those two weeks we chatted online at least 4 days a week. I don't know what I should expect from a guy after knowing him 5 weeks and after having 2 dates... I don't want to be on a back burner... I don't know if he is dating others and or whether he is keeping me on the side just in case? I just think that is someone is interested they will make the time to either see you or talk...

Please help me...

Don't call him or text him or message him online for a week, if he contacts you he might just be a busy fella. If he doesn't, he's probably not interested.

Thanks I will. I last spoke to him online on Tuesday and heard from him via email on Wednesday and as of right now I have not heard from him and I will not send him any communication unless he sends me first

I just think that if someone really wants to see you they would. Seeing as its been 2 weeks since I last saw him.

Very obvious you would like another date, but he is busy, or whatever.

Thats a very clear signal not to tie yourself down waiting for him. Enjoy other options, and opportunities, to do your thing, and enjoy yourself, as its not smart to wait for any one to make time for you.

Why should you be available for someone who is not as available to you?

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Talaniman thank you so much for your words of wisdom. Sometimes we need to read/see the truth of what we need to do from someone else's eyes/words... thank you again.

Take back your power. The ball's in your court. If this sort of stalling or whatever you want to call it is acceptable to you, then fine. If not, then take the bull by the horns and put a stop to it, simply by telling yourself that this is not acceptable and move on, without worrying about what he feels or wants. You make the rules when it comes to deciding how you're going to let others treat you. Now my own personal gut reaction tells me that this guy's really not interested so I would back off. Now if I'm wrong then I'm sure he'll get back in touch with you and I'm sure he'll have gotten the message that he can't string you along - it's either all or nothing.

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Originally Posted by s_cianci

Take back your power. The ball's in your court. If this sort of stalling or whatever you want to call it is acceptable to you, then fine. If not, then take the bull by the horns and put a stop to it, simply by telling yourself that this is not acceptable and move on, without worrying about what he feels or wants. You make the rules when it comes to deciding how you're going to let others treat you. Now my own personal gut reaction tells me that this guy's really not interested so I would back off. Now if I'm wrong then I'm sure he'll get back in touch with you and I'm sure he'll have gotten the message that he can't string you along - it's either all or nothing.

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Thank you S_cianci that is exactly what my gut tells me as well. That is why I asked him whether he's interested or not because it' s not fair to either one of us and he said yes he was but I think he's full of b---!:eek::eek:https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/images/smilies/eek.gif

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That is why I asked him whether he's interested or not because it' s not fair to either one of us and he said yes he was but I think he's full of b---!

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Probably. And he probably doesn't have the heart to come right out and tell you no, he's no longer interested. Consider it a kindness on his part, though misguided, that he wants to spare your feelings and move on.