My husband won't make love to me
My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for almost 4. We have two beautiful children a 2 yr old and a 4 month old. The first two years we were dating we had sex all of the time. The last 7 years it feels like it is not happening enough. I understand that relationships go through stages, but I feel horrible about this all of the time. I feel undesired and unwanted. He also never says I love you first. He'll answer me if I tell him. This also really bothers me. When I ask him about this he says well my parents weren't real affectionate with us, we never said I love you, yada yada yada. He says honey I show you love you all the time with my actions. Which he does. He is a wonderful husband, he's a very hands on dad. But if he knows that I want him to tell me I love you why doesn't he do it. We co-sleep with our children but I don't think this has anything to do with us not sleeping together since this problem existed before then. I'm getting to the point where I feel if things don't change I'm going to want out of my marriage. Are these selfish things I'm asking. We are still young. Any advice would really help. I feel like one day I'm just going to be over trying to get him to want to make love to me.