I and my boyfriend has been dating for 4 years this July 2009. Since then we had many quarrels, even major ones. We even fought at their home. It was because he told me that he'll fetch me at school, I waited for one hour yet he didn't came. I went at their home and I just found him still sleeping. We fought hard that his mother yelled at me thiese things: I'm the jinx at his son's life, that it's better that we break up and his mother even got a knife and pointed it on me.that was two yrs ago, but still the problem with me and his family mother and sisters still in the issue. Now our problems focus on his career because he is going abroad (he's a nurse) to earn and he says it's for his family. He promised me that we'l get married but not too soon even after he gets back from abroad because his family is his priority. I feel sad that he even prioritizes his nephews and cousins and his brother's wife more than me. I feel jealous and bitter. He loves his baby nephews and nieces but he doesn't want to have a baby with me. I've been secretly trying alone to make myself pregnant with him yet it's been four years but still I'm not pregnant. I feel sad. Now he is still here in the philippines but his priority is his job. Yesterday I finally told him, during a fight that it's better we break up since I'm always last on his priorities. Now we don't have communication any more and its been three days already. I don't know if I did the right thing. Help me. I just thought I was wasting my time on a man whom I prioritize yet I still remain an option for him.

Don't overwelm yourself it will be OK if he don't come to you in within a week he maybe not intrested and he isn't worth your time love takes patients if he isn't called or come to your house by Saturday you should move on to man that will treat you with everything you deserve it will be OK :) life gets a little rough at times but you will make it through it

You did the right thing about ending it. You deserve better.

I think you were wasting your time as well. Best to move on and focus on someone who will focus on you.

Apparently his family of origin is more important to him than you are. This is not a healthy relationship and one which you should abandon. Also, trying to "secretly" get pregnant with him will backfire on you so don't.

I hope this is the end to this sad toxic chapter in your life.

Why would you stay with someone that does not make you his priority?

You fight (a lot), his family hate you, and he's away for work. Not much that's positive about this relationship.

Also, trying to fall pregnant in secret is dishonest and in these circumstances, irresponsible on your part.

It's not working, so let him go. Maintain the lack of contact and make living well and honestly your priority.

You're loser in any angle of the battle here so you are just doing the right thing. Be strong and resist the temptation of turning back. The more you look back, the more you can't move on.

While he was wrong for not making your higher on his priority list, you were 110% wrong for trying to trap him by getting yourself pregnant.

Both of you need to be apart, you seem like you are scared to be alone