So my son is 12, I have raised him from day one, with little to no contact from his bio dad I had a parenting plan signed by the judge, little did I know because I did have an attorney but the plan was only a temp one so a little over a year and the court sends me paper that they want to dismiss my plan due to inactivity I guess, well I didn't know I was uppose to go to court all the time to keep my plan active, I went to a status conference they assigned me all for it to be continued to July 2 2009,I don't understand, the bio dad has not done any of his visits, nor had any contact with my son, how can I prevent them from dismissing my parenting plan and me not having to start the process all over again let alone I don't know where his bio dad is or if he still resides here in Washington state please some helpful advise would be much appreciated I get the run around from the courts who apparently don't know what they are doing either:eek::confused:::(:mad: so please help me if you can my son wants nothing to do with his bio dad as his dad was abusive to him, and he was well something that should never happen to anybody

My twelve year old son is mean, he is rude to his step dad his brother and sister, his youngest brother was diagnosed with neurofibromatosis aka nf, my oldest is always talking like he is better than anybody, gets in peoples faces is up at the crack of dawn sneaking into any sugar stuff he can find argues like there is no tomorrow, use t put holes in the wall jumped on my car and dented the op of it which did result in me calling the police on him please
Any body have advise? He is in therapy, on medication, going to speech therapy:mad: I am at a stop with knowing what more to do he has lost his TV in his room, lost playing the wii, ps2,and game cube, he is disrespectful to his step dad

He is 12. This is all normal behavior. Especially since he has been through so much from what I can tell from your post. He may be jealous of the attention his younger brother is getting due to his disorder. He may be resentfull to his step father.


On top of all this, it is NORMAL for a 12 year old to rebel.

You stick to your guns. Do NOT accept ANY disprespect. YOU ARE THE PARENT. HE IS THE CHILD. Put your foot down and demand he follow the rules. And if the rules are not followed, he will be punished. If he continues, do not simply take the video games and television away. GET RID OF THEM PERMINANTELY. Give them to someone else.

This is a HUGE key point that needs to be seen in your other post hon. I will ask the mods to merge this for you.

My answer for you is on your other post :)

It's like going through the Terrible Twos all over again. He's trying to become a person separate from you and to become himself, whatever "himself" turns out to be. That's why you have to be the consistent one, his guide.

Does he do anything RIGHT and GOOD?

At this point in time with your having to renew your plan in July I don't see any way out of going to renew it on that day. Tell them that you want a to do a permanent one or one that lasts more than one year rather than a temporary one this time if at all possible.