My boyfriend and me have been dating a year and he was secretly calling my best friend behind my back, neather of them told me what was going down.. :( now he tells me it's the past what should I do?

What do you mean by calling? Is he casually just calling to say hi and be friends?


If he says its in the past, its worth giving him another chance. If it happens again, then its over. But you need to ask yourself, is he worth it?

Well I have one answer for that. Leave him in the past!
That's dishonesty from the start and not to mention what kind of best friend do you have? Move on from them both. How hurt I would be more if my best friend did that to me more then a boyfriend.

Sounds like they were both doing things behind your back. There's no more trust for either of them.

Leave both of them in the past.

He hid it from you. Now he says he stopped.
That is what they are going to say because they were caught, It doesn't mean they will stop or not, but that they will be more careful not to get caught,
Hopefully he did stop but watch for signs that he didn't stop.

If a significant other has a friend of the opposite sex that is okay under some circumstances but when they conceal it it makes it wrong.

Tell him that you feel it's very shady that he won't tell you what it's about and you are really concerned. And if he doesn't take that into consideration I'd be a bit worried. If it was nothing then he could tell you exactly what it's about.

Walk away and be thankful that you found out now that he is a sneaky guy. And do the same for your 'friend'... friends don't do that and she would do it again in a heart-beat.

You know the old question... if you could rob a bank and get away with it would you? People who do bad things because they think they can get away with it are just that- bad people..

Thumper

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Originally Posted by area51Nmore

my bf and me have been dating a year and he was secretly calling my best freind behind my back, neather of them told me what was going down..:( now he tells me its the past wat should i do?

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You have no idea why there were phone calls? How do you know that he only called her once to plan a surprise birthday party for you.

What was the nature of the phone calls, and what did each of them say to each other.

Surely simple phone calls wasn't the reason you dumped him?

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Originally Posted by Jake2008

You have no idea why there were phone calls? How do you know that he only called her once to plan a surprise birthday party for you.

What was the nature of the phone calls, and what did each of them say to eachother.

Surely simple phone calls wasn't the reason you dumped him?

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No if you read the details rite you would know that they lied about it to me and my birthday was in February I know your trying to help

I would be suspicious of him, and my best friend and somebody would have to tell me what's up with that secret stuff!! It had better be really good, or I would be looking for a new friend, and another boyfriend.

Get the facts, and "its the past" don't cut it at all.