6/08/2009 talked on phone after 20yrs
6/20/2009 met face to face after 20yrs
6/23/2009 last heard from him
6/26/2009 he died : (
Sorry this is long. I was just reunited with a boy (now man) that I met 20yrs ago and we exchanged letters often. He found me on myspace. We talked on the phone getting to know each other again. We talked about our lives/relationships over the past 20yrs. He's 34. I'm 35. He also mentioned that he had brain surgery in 98. But said he got checked often. He gave me the impression that he was doing fine. So about 2wks after we talked again, we met at a mall. Talked for about 2hours. It only took me a moment to get past the slight physical change in him. Due to his surgery. Our meeting went well. We texted each other the next day because I was busy, that was father's day. His texts were like "i had a good time", "be careful", "looking forward to other dates", and "i miss u". On Monday I got a text from him saying he had a financial aid meeting. Then nothing else on Monday. I text him tues morning from the computer... asked him to let me know if he got it. He said yes. That's the last I heard from him. I spent 3days trying to text him to no avail. 1st I was worried. The text at 1st were "how are u", "let me know if ur ok", etc. then doubt set in. "if u don't wanna talk let me know", "we're too old for this, just tell me the truth", etc. I was convinced he either had someone already or he was playing games. Then Saturday morning, I checked his myspace and someone put "r.i.p. cuz, i know ur in a better place" and my heart sank. Then someone finally returned my text from his phone saying he past Friday night. 6/26. I still don't know why. Or if it had to do with his surgery.

I question God because what was the point of this man coming into my life after 20years... only for 2 weeks?? Maybe to let him see me once more before he died?? Maybe to show me something?? I'm convinced that this man would have been my husband. We had a connection years ago that was still there. And now I'm convinced I will never find anyone like him. So why did God tease me?? Expert opinions plzzzzzz! I think I've fallen in love with him since he died.

It is sad when that happens
But maybe he asked God to see you again.

I do believe we have an appointed day to be born and an appointed day to die.
That last plane that went down a month or so ago in Europe they said a woman had missed the plane and later died in a car wreck.

We can't always know why things happen but I do believe that everything happens for a reason and a life lesson or something to treasure.

God doesn't tease you.
Would you rather never to have reconnected with the guy and heard about his death, or are you thankful for the short time you were re-united?

This is really sad love, and I am sorry but maybe this was some sort of trail and I am sure he was at least he did get to see you and have that before he went. I can understand why you started to love him and care more and even think he could have been your husband, there is always the what ifs and could have been...
But I don't think God was tormenting or teasing you, I think life is much more than we think and there is a reason for every event even the small ones. I think there is a reason we can only use 10% of our brains, if we knew more it would blow our minds... and just think with the right steps in your life and becoming closer to God one day you will meet again...

A common thing to happen when someone experiences someone close to them dying is to think of them highly, even more so than when they were alive, that's why you feel as though you fell in love with him. Most importantly though, we are living to learn lessons, and often they are bad lessons, but these experiences change a person often for the better. You should be glad for the experience as there are people in the world who experience worse, and there are people who experience virtually nothing extreme and we should feel sorry for them.

I know how that feels. Its had to let go of someone who you think is meant for you. Just be grateful you had a chance to see him after all these years. It gave you a chance to say goodbye and closure I guess. In time, your pain will pass. Be glad you had a chance to meet him before he died.

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