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  • Jun 29, 2009, 07:51 AM
    Simone21295
    He doesn't love me anymore
    So I made a fake profile on myyearbook(its like myspace but better) for fun. I know now that that was wrong and I won't do it again. So then I put some pictures up there that look nothing lyk me. That person was way prettier than me. So I met this really nice guy the said he loved more than anything. Which was big for me because I didn't think anyone loved me at all. I felt the same way about him. WE TALKED ALL THE TIME. He texted me as soon as I woke up and we kept texting until one of us feel asleep. I loved always having someone to talk to because I'm always alone. So we were talking for about a month or 2 and he asked if I wanted to go out with him. I did but it woodnt work because I was a fake and I was lying to him. So I told him the truth that I was a fake and we don't even talk anymore. What happened to "you make my day", and "I don't know how I survived this long without you" and "I love you more than life". I can understand what he's probably feeling too. Like he's been used and lied to and I hate myself for that. He said don't sweat it but I can't stop thinking about him. Its been a 2 weeks since I told him and I still wait for him to txt me almost everyday. Im not sure if love him, but I like him a lot. I think it's the fact that I hate being alone, that's why I miss him so much. I feel like a horrible person now and I don't deserve to talk to him. I want your opinion on that situation, please.
  • Jun 29, 2009, 09:56 AM
    justcurious55

    You built a relationship based on lies and deceit. No wonder he doesn't want to talk to you anymore. Would you want to talk to someone who started straight up lying to you? I don't think so. So here's my advice, if you want friends, get off the computer and get out there to meet people. The internet is a dangerous place to meet people anyway. Get involved in your community. Do volunteer work. Take classes in through your community center or a local junior college. And this time remember to always be honest about who you are.
  • Jun 30, 2009, 10:13 PM
    Simone21295

    I would go out and make friends but my mom is to over protective and she won't let me go anywere. Its like I'm grounded all the time.
  • Jun 30, 2009, 10:20 PM
    Simone21295

    I would go out and make friends if I could but my mom is way too over protective. She won't let me go anywere. Its like I'm grounded all the time
  • Jun 30, 2009, 11:07 PM
    7six_seraph

    Why don't you make a 'real' myyearbook and then add him?
  • Jun 30, 2009, 11:13 PM
    barbiechick123

    Right now this boy feels betrayed, you lied to him and developed a relationship with someone who thought you were different. Maybe he doesn't want to talk to you because that would be very weird and awkward considering that he fell in love with a fake. I suggest letting him cool off and if he wants to get to know the REAL you, he will... I would understand how he feels though, you built a relationship off lies and deceit, next time you do this know that you have to be honest from the start.
  • Jun 30, 2009, 11:34 PM
    Simone21295

    I made a real myyearbook but I'm not sure if I should add him since were not talking anymore and he doesn't want to talk.
  • Jun 30, 2009, 11:35 PM
    justcurious55

    How old are you? If you're young enough that you still have to live by your mom's rules you are certainly way too young to be meeting people on the internet. Have you ever watched the news? Do you know how many women have been murdered by people they met online. Make friends at school.
  • Jun 30, 2009, 11:43 PM
    Simone21295

    I'm 14
  • Jul 1, 2009, 10:13 AM
    barbiechick123

    Oh yeah, that's another thing, honey. You shouldn't meet boys off the internet, a lot of times they are going to be creeps regardless of the age. You should make a myyearbook for your true friends that you meet outside. If you really think your mom's being too over protective and it's stopping you from making friends, you should have her enroll you in extra curricular activities where it's supervised and you meet cool people your age. I highly doubt that your mom wants you to have no friends, I'm sure she just doesn't want you going places alone like the mall or the park because of sickos.
  • Jul 1, 2009, 01:25 PM
    justcurious55

    You have to work on earning your mom's trust. Doing foolish things like creating fake accounts and going out to meet strange men you met online is not the way to do that. Only bad things can come from sneaking around.
  • Jul 1, 2009, 01:35 PM
    Simone21295

    She doesn't know about any of the stuff I do while I'm home alone. She's just scared someone is going to hurt me or take me away.
  • Jul 1, 2009, 07:11 PM
    justcurious55

    Hmm... maybe there's a reason for that! Parents often know more than they think you do. The fake profile screams immature and foolish. I'm betting there's other behaviors you exhibit when she is around. And 14 is still young. I was finally allowed to go out and to things when I was your age. But I had to be with a group. My mom and aunt (imagine having two paranoid protective moms... ) had to know who was in the group. They had to drop me off to see the group. If I walked two feet away from where I told them I would be (there was a cold stone ice cream store across the parking lot of the movie theater I went to that was a common hang out) and didn't call, I would never hear the end of it. Over time, when I went out and never got into trouble and proved that I was responsible enough to make good choices when it came to who I hung out with, they got less strict. It went fromme practically begging to go to the movies to "i'm going to the movies with so and so." "ok, be home by midnight" it takes a lot of time to earn trust.
  • Jul 1, 2009, 07:51 PM
    Simone21295

    Maybe I am immature and I do foolish things sometimes. So that means I have to just be miserable until she decides I'm mature enough to go places?
  • Jul 3, 2009, 06:43 AM
    Simone21295

    Its been 2 weeks shood I keep waiting for him 2 cool off or give up?
  • Jul 3, 2009, 08:07 AM
    THEpurplepeanut
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Simone21295 View Post
    Its been 2 weeks shood I keep waitin 4 him 2 cool off or give up?

    Internet boyfriends never work out. My friend has had TONS of "boyfriends" who she met on myspace and myyearbook and Facebook and they only last up to a week. She can't even count how many boyfriend she has had on her hands and feet without running out of toes and fingers! I'm 14 too and my parents are also very strict. Go out with a group to the movies instead of by yourself or do other activities with a group. I did track and field at my school and it helped me make more friends and show my parents that I am responsible enough to handle the long hours at school and still get my homework and chores done and keep my grades at straight A's. Do an after school activity and make some real friends who are not on the computer. :)
  • Jul 3, 2009, 09:41 AM
    justcurious55

    Give up on him. Which part of "meeting boys on the internet is dangerous" are you not getting? I suspect this is part of why you are not allowed to go out. You've been told repeatedly that this was all a bad idea and yet you're still asking if you should wait for this guy. And yeah, you're only 14, so you do have to sit home until your mom decides you can go out. The being miserable part of it is entirely up to you. You can sit there pouting or you can make the best of it.
  • Jul 3, 2009, 02:58 PM
    Simone21295

    I never thot about actually going 2 go meet him. He wood b lyk my "internet boyfriend".
  • Jul 3, 2009, 03:11 PM
    THEpurplepeanut
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Simone21295 View Post
    I never thot about actually goin 2 go meet him. He wood b lyk my "internet boyfriend".

    But still it would just leave you miserable like my friend is. Like I said she has had more bfs on the computer than she can count and it leaves her depressed all the time because they never work out and they end up breaking up in a week. Plus I do agree that it could be a little dangerous to be sharing personal information with someone you only know from the computer with no proof of who they really are. Plus this is just my opinion, but it is just pointless to have a "boyfriend" who you can't even hug or go see a movie with. If I were you I would just keep him as a friend on myyearbook and as nothing more and go find someone who you can talk to in person. Trust me it is much more fun;) good luck! :)
  • Jul 6, 2009, 10:38 AM
    jaimie02

    First of all hun, he did not love you. Sorry. But it's the truth. He didn't know you, you were fake. Maybe he loved the idea of the fake you, and got to know "you" but still loved the IDEA of you.

    YOu didn't really know each other or hang out so you didn't love each other.

    Also I'm sorry to break it to you but he probably will not text you anymore. He is probably really hurt, or he has just moved on.

    And remember, you weren't completely honest with him and maybe he wasn't completely honest with you.

    And as for your mom. I know exactly how you feel because mine is pretty much like that too. But trust me, life will get easier and you will figure it out soon enough.
    I hate to sound mean and cold hearted but just move on. I know how you are feeling right now and I also know how he is feeling. But you just have to move on and forget him. Its easier said than done, but its not worth wasting your time on.

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