OK - so I started to slowly talk to this guy with no intentions on even getting involved with him.
I met him on a dating site and we talked very rarely via text and maybe twice via phone in 5 months.
I was on business out of town, and was not returning home for 6 months.
Around the 5th month he did mention he would drive 3 hours to where I was to come meet me. Well I was on business and my career is very important so I said no.
So I returned home 3 weeks early and he text me "what are you doing"... I mentioned that I got home early and his reply was "and you did not tell me" keep in mind we rarely text or call..
So I met him yest and we had a great time!! I need a guys input maybe more then one on this one.
So I am clearly aware that this guy must love to text when communicating. He has money so I know he can afford a plan (lol) oh and he is not a shy person nor ever had his heart broke, but I guess my question would be "why does he only text me"? He doesn't call and I Have mentioned this to him in a "joking manner". His reply is "i'm just not a phone person". He makes comments like "i am going to make you my girl" this and that, but the effort on communicating even within the last 6 months really is not there.
So... before I get myself emotionally involved, I don't want to set myself up for disappointment. Why do you think he text (when he text and it's only for like 3 min" then we won't talk for a day or even 5 days. what is going through his head????
his actions don't speak louder then his "text" lol

Appreciate the feed back!

Thank you.

Ps: He is 31 years old.
Sorry for all lower case, it would not let me submit unless I took them out

Hmmm...

In my opinion, he doesn't sound like a very mature guy, or maybe he is very in-touch with his technology.

I know when I first started courting my fiancé, I used to text her a lot, but didn't call much. I guess it was easier typing what I wanted to say rather than trying to get the words out of my mouth.

Now I'm not too sure why he doesn't talk to you more than once in a while. Could it be that he is not very serious, or he is very busy with work and other things?

He does sound like me in a way, telling you "I am going to make you my girl"... but the last time I said that, was to my fiancé, and that was when I was 22. This guy is saying he is going to make you "his girl", but to me, that doesn't sound very mature either, but that's just what I'm thinking.

It could be that he is just playing around and likes to joke, keep things light, and doesn't want to get too serious. Furthermore, have you told him that your career is very important to you? This may be a way he is protecting himself from getting hurt by you, in case you choose your career over him.

Just my thoughts... and I'm a guy... yes a little younger than the male in question here, but a guy nevertheless.

Good luck :)

My husband hates talking on the phone, avoids it like the plague.

When we were dating he'd call just to tell me he was picking me up, or to make a date, but never just to chat.

We didn't have texting back then, but if we had I'm sure he would have preferred it.

Why not ask him what's up?

I hate talking on the phone, I'd rather see them in person or text them ( by msn or else ). I guess it's a guy thing to not wanting to talk on the phone... Yet again, I doubt you are telling the story in a objective manner. You should try to think with your head and you'll get your answer ( do we ever think without our heads though? LOL)