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  • Jun 27, 2009, 05:49 PM
    cb92
    Did I do something wrong and is he interested still?
    I am 17 and I went on a date with this guy I had been talking to for a while, when we first met it was a little weird this was my first date ever so I am not the most in tune on this subject but by the end of the date we were having a great time laughing and kissing :) but it has been about 3 days and he still hasent called me I have texted him a few times but he kind of just blew me off in a way. We went from talking ever night to this. I am so confused is he still interested? I need some advice asap!
  • Jun 27, 2009, 06:22 PM
    bizygurl

    It may not mean anything bad. I would give it a week, then give him a call and see if he wants to get together again. It really has only been 3 days, he may be playing the game like everyone else does. Its kind of typical to not hear anything right away after a first date. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Ya never know, he could have been caught up in other things.. call him in a week if you haven't heard anything.
  • Jun 27, 2009, 06:28 PM
    mona93

    Give him some time... then talk to him again... don't freak out... after that if he is not interested.. then you must freak out... just kidding... just go on... find another guy
  • Jun 28, 2009, 12:45 PM
    talaniman

    Don't take it personally and leave him alone. What ever his issues, you may never know, but there are other dates that await you. Don't get stuck on this one.
  • Jun 28, 2009, 12:54 PM
    redhed35

    Don't worry about one guy.. leave it alone for a while,go out with your friends and enjoy yourself.
  • Jun 28, 2009, 01:42 PM
    kp2171
    Back off some.

    You might like him. He might like you. Or not. Or maybe.

    But the honest truth is most people like to chase a little and be chased a little... so... step back an see what happens. You have made some moves. You've put yourself out there, maybe even too much.

    I don't like mind games... I think the more genuine a person can be the better... you obviously have the courage and ability to seek out what you might want.

    But... what about him? We know nothing yet other than he isn't chasing you.

    Is he not interested?

    Is he interested but not ready to chase?

    Is he interested but doesn't know what to do?

    And on and on and on...

    So... if you were my sister id tell you to step back some... sometimes good people just aren't good matches even when they like each other. Sometimes poor matches get together anyway despite the inevitable crash and burn... id probably put him to the wall too if you were my sis... ;)

    Try not to overthink this. I know how stupid that sounds. Believe me.

    But he is either a guy who will meet your needs... and one of those needs is to be chased... or he isn't. And if he isn't, fine.

    I've even loved two women I just couldn't be with. It happens. I've liked more who didn't think we were a good enough match... and I'm sure there've been a few who liked me large but didn't have the social skills to keep pace with me or who weren't ready to move on from past loves.

    So... I've typed a lot to say basically "i dunno... but keep your chin up"

    I certainly wouldn't initiate any more contact in the near future... sounds like if he isn't willing to chase you some that you will feel unfulfilled... I don't like head games, but I'm willing to chase some and I want to be chased some.

    Quid pro quo.

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