I have been following this site since my problems have come up which have been about 3 weeks. All of these scenarios sound so familiar but mine have a few different aspects to it. I thought I would ask to get some other opinions and help. To begin with my ex and I split up 3 weeks ago and these past 3 weeks have been an absolute nightmare. We were together for 4 and half years and we have 3 kids together which make our situation a little different than most here. At one point we were engaged to get married, but all of the stress we had on both of caused us to break the engagement off. We continued to be together but could never quite get along, which I will a admit was probably a lot of my doing. She finally reached her breaking point 3 weeks ago and said that it was over. Since she has been talking to another guy on the phone and goes out on the weekends where her family is from. I know I haven't been the best boyfriend in the past but have realized the mistakes I have made and have tried to make her see that I want to change for the better. With that being said she has seen that I am making those changes and that I am committed to them, but she says that she loves me but doesn't know if she can get those feeling she used have for me. I have tried giving her her space but mess by calling or texting her. Not to mention I can't just not talk to her or not see her because we have 3 kids together. Well about 5 days ago she calls me up and says that she had been doing a lot of thinking and that she said she was being stupid for not trying to make it work because she wants to be a family as well. We spent the last 5 days together but something wasn't right with her, I could tell just by the way she was around me. And the fact she didn't want to tell anyone that we were trying to make it work with each other. This morning when I woke up I told her that I was going to let her go and try to figure what makes her happy, because I knew that she wasn't happy with me. She responded with I am trying to be happy but can't make myself. I told her that I didn't want her to have to make herself feel that way and that I wanted it to naturally come. I don't want her to just be with me because we have kids, I want her to be with me because she is in love with me! I know that the kids are the most important thing in this situation so I want to do what's best for them first. I just don't know what to do, I want her back, but not if she doesn't have those feelings for me. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks for everyone's time and help!