I've liked the same boy for 2 years and finally on the last day of school we confessed our infatuation with each other, he said he would call me and he didn't... apparently he texted me, but I just got text, after that... 2 days ago, we were text messaging and talking about when we can hang out, we established it would be yesterday, and we are "bf/gf" (ugh... I hate that label), anyway, he then texted me the next day saying he couldn't due to family plans and he would be busy most of the summer (his family is really pro-active) so then we didn't text message at all yesterday and today I messaged him and he didn't reply yet. What's going on, do you think he's ignoring me or is he simply just busy. I'm getting really sad and scared because things were going awesome!

Things will get REALLY awesome for you when you put your phone away and get busy in real life. His family is proactive? Why aren't you?

You need something to text him about a couple of days from now... something other than, "Why haven't you texted me?"

While he's busy living in the real world, so should you. Eagerly and creatively. Get some stories of your own about what's going on in your day to share with him.

I've asked a question similar a few days ago but I only got one answer and I felt attacked. But that's besides the point by now... So long story short, the guy I've liked for two years admitted he liked me 2 weeks ago, we have talked through text for a few days after and established we were boyfriend/girlfriend, right after that he just texted me the next day only to tell me he was busy most of the summer, my naïve mind thought he was serious so I texted him only for him to ignore me... Today my friend asked him what's going on and he replied "She's okay but I don't like her that much anymore", he didn't even tell me himself and I'm devastated. How do I get over something so aggravating? I know I can do activities and be with my friends, but those are only distractions in the end I think about him anyway. What he did was wrong and cowardly, but it left me heartbroken :(.

Don't let yourself "trick yourself" into thinking anything can be done to "make him understand". It can't. If he cared enough to "get it", he would have called you himself. He didn't. You nailed it, he's a coward and he's moved on, putting his own feelings first and foremost. Period.

Keep that in mind when "pangs" of what-if come to mind. Ignore them. He's not worth getting back, he's not worth spending another moment fretting yourself over in any way.

There's no such thing as closure. Anything you do AT him or TOWARDS him now will mostly just exacerbate the whole situation, including your heart.

The only thing that heals personal hurts is time. No magic, no tricks, just getting on with it. Do your time, and when your life is busy enough and distracted enough, you'll be over him and won't even notice it happened.

Thanks JB, since you're the only one who's been answering... haha, anyway yeah don't even think I would take him back! Even if he begged.

Well, I've been on the forum long enough to know...

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... don't even think I would take him back! Even if he begged.

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... is probably not true. Don't get me wrong, it NEEDS to be true, because then you've recognized your value and maintain your self-respect.

So, don't take it too hard, this isn't a reflection on you.

Further, think of this as a blessing (if you can). This young man managed to show his true colors with you VERY quickly. Most times, months (if not years) are wasted getting to know a guy before his true "inner-jerk" appears. And many women waste MORE time trying to "fix him"...

You didn't have any of that, he flared up bad right away and has given you back precious life days that otherwise would've gone to dust.

Party on.

Thanks!