I'm just curious. I think I've had an orgasm before, but I'm not really sure. I've had tremors and I've been really wet after but I'm not sure if it's an orgasm or not. How can I be sure?

If you're not sure then you didn't.

You'll know when you do.

It's hard to explain how an orgasm feels. It also different for every woman.

You know your body best. Trust me, when you do have one there will be no doubt.

If you have had tremors and been wet, you have been enjoying yourself, but there has been No Orgasm Lottery yet.
Keep working on it, because with time, usually you find out how to have the Big O.
Practice, Practice Practice.

Trust me you would know! It's not something that you can miss.

You don't state your age, but have you tried masterbating?
Orgasms with sex can be different, but the first step to pleasure is knowing how to please yourself.
Then you will be able to help others know how to please you.

I'm 19, and the only way I come close to it is either through oral or with his fingers.. . And it gets to the point where I feel like I'm way over stimulated but it won't release the tension. Maybe I don't relax?

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I'm 19, and the only way I come close to it is either through oral or with his fingers. . . and it gets to the point where I feel like I'm way over stimulated but it won't release the tension. maybe i don't relax?

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Do you know where your clitoris is, where your G-spot is?

Do you ever feel the urge to bear down during oral or masturbation?

Relaxing is important. Being willing to let go, not to hold back.

Women and sex, it's mostly mental. If you can't relax enough to enjoy the experience, be willing to let yourself go, you will have problems.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Do you know where your clitoris is, where your G-spot is?

Do you ever feel the urge to bear down during oral or masturbation?

Relaxing is important. Being willing to let go, not to hold back.

Women and sex, it's mostly mental. If you can't relax enough to enjoy the experience, be willing to let yourself go, you will have problems.

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I know where my clitoris is, but not my G-spot. And I'm not exactly sure what the G-spot is. (I also don't masturbate, my boyfriend does it for me so I'm not exactly sure what to do) But It can get hard to relax because I feel a lot of tension in my legs/ thighs/ and lower back mostly.

Side note: I use the restroom before we do anything but sometimes while we're in the middle of it, when I get very tense I feel like I'm going to go again. Is it because I need to go again , or is it something else?

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side note: I use the restroom before we do anything but sometimes while we're in the middle of it, when i get very tense i feel like I"m going to go again. Is it because I need to go again , or is it something else?

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You're not going to go again. It's normal. Even if you had to pee and didn't go before, most likely you will not go again.

Don't worrie about the urinating during the orgasm hon. It's a normal sensation, and while it MAY happen, it happens to the best of us.

You definitely need to RELAX. Its VERY important.

It will get better with time. Practice is the key. And exploration.

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you're not gonna go again. it's normal. even if you had to pee and didnt go before, most likely you will not go again.

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I was reading some stuff an dI don't think that it's pee. Especially because it doesn't smell like it, and I go before I do anything. I think it's female ejaculation.. .

*embarassed face*

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I was reading some stuff an dI don't think that it's pee. especially because it doesn't smell like it, and I go before i do anything. I think it's female ejaculation. . .

*embarassed face*

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Yes it is and it is nothing to be embarrassed about!
Female ejaculation fluids come from the urethra which is the same place urine comes from but it a completely different thing.

I don't think I have met a man yet that does not like a woman who is able to do this.

Relax and enjoy the moment, if you do feel that "need to pee" during sex just go with it, it can feel amazing.

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I know where my clitoris is, but not my G-spot. And I'm not exactly sure what the G-spot is. (I also don't masturbate, my boyfriend does it for me so i'm not exactly sure what to do) But It can get hard to relax because I feel a lot of tension in my legs/ thighs/ and lower back mostly.

side note: I use the restroom before we do anything but sometimes while we're in the middle of it, when i get very tense i feel like I"m going to go again. Is it because I need to go again , or is it something else?

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I have many orgasms... and if you feel like you need to "go again".. bear down and GO FOR IT... that is way more than an orgasm and most women can't do that... Yes... it is a little like your "going" on your partner.. but you are NOT... You can find more information about "squirting" on the net...

You don't need anyone to tell you when you have orgasm. Its an intense feeling of pleasure that you will know instantly.

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I know where my clitoris is, but not my G-spot. And I'm not exactly sure what the G-spot is. (I also don't masturbate, my boyfriend does it for me so i'm not exactly sure what to do) But It can get hard to relax because I feel a lot of tension in my legs/ thighs/ and lower back mostly.

side note: I use the restroom before we do anything but sometimes while we're in the middle of it, when i get very tense i feel like I"m going to go again. Is it because I need to go again , or is it something else?

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General the G-Spot is about 2-3 inches (it varies with women) inside and to reach it the finger must rub against the upper wall i.e. toward the abdominal area. The pee feeling is the result of contractions which presses against the bladder.