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How can I change my personality

I have problems at school and out of school, My friends don't like my personality, I try to change but I cant, I find it difficult, My friends tell me to change or I will loose them. I don't know what to do! :(

What kind of friends are these? Your personality is what makes you, well you. Don't change for anyone, just find people that you get along with better.

What did you do to them to end here... if it's nothing serious... I don't think the're even friends if they said that to you

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Originally Posted by mona93

what did you do to them to end here....if it's nothing serious...i don't think the're even friends if they said that to you

I agree. There must be some characteristics that drive people away.

Everyone could use some self improvement.

Besides, if you want to change it takes work.

Sarah

What are some of the specific things that they have an issue with Unhappy? I feel that if they have addressed you in this manner "change or i will loose them" they may have told you why.

Can you please give us some insight that may help us understand a bit more?

Thanks,

Stringer

Yeah what are some examples and what are some adjectives that best describe your personality they don't like?

Like obnoxious, overbearing, clingy,.

Hi, unhappy 1!

I agree with the others that it would be helpful if you would provide specifics as to what others don't like about your personality.

Thanks!

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Originally Posted by Stringer

What are some of the specific things that they have an issue with Unhappy? I feel that if they have addressed you in this manner "change or i will loose them" they may have told you why.

Can you please give us some insight that may help us understand a bit more?

Thanks,

Stringer

I have had a lot of problems in the past, I never used to have this personality I have got now, I used to be nice and happy and always hard working, I used to be good at school and get nice comments from friends and the teachers, but when people started being horrible to me and bullying me I went to the school and they didn't do much too help me, they always said just ignore it, my parents came into the school so many times dealing with the problems I have had, nothing worked, so I decided to stand up for myself and change my personality, I am now the opposite to what I was before, I get into trouble at school, my grades have fallen, I get my friends into trouble sometimes, I get violent towards people, but that was only because I wanted to harden up abit so people would back off from me, and now the situation has gotten worst, my friends want me to change back to the way I was, but I'm afraid that if I do that then I will get more grief then I had before, I try to change but its so difficult, I've been like this for 3 yrs now.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

yeah what are some examples and what are some adjectives that best describe your personality they don't like?

Like obnoxious, overbearing, clingy,.......?

My personality isn't really a nice side, I get into trouble a lot, Im aggressive at times, also Im violent, Im only nice when I want to be, My personality is all connected with that, My personality isn't very nice.

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Originally Posted by Clough

Hi, unhappy 1!

I agree with the others that it would be helpful if you would provide specifics as to what others don't like about your personality.

Thanks!

My personality isn't very nice, Im aggressive, Violent , Nice when I want to be , I get into trouble a lot , Im always unhappy , and I always look on the negative side , instead of the positive.

I usually tell people to not use their past as an excuse for their behavior but in your case I think that telling people What do you expect when the way I am is the way I have been treated all my life.
But you need to learn to not take it out on your friends.
Maybe take your best closest friends and have individual talks with them about your hurts in life. Sometimes opening up to others does wonders.

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Originally Posted by mona93

what did you do to them to end here....if it's nothing serious...i don't think the're even friends if they said that to you

That's what I thought, It's really hard to find out who your true friends are, My friends knew the situation I had, Before I had This personality, I only changed so I could defend Myself To the people who started on me, I never had this personality, I used To be nice and kind, and happy etc!! But now Im the opposite to all that.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

I usually tell people to not use their past as an excuse for their behavior but in your case I think that telling people What do you expect when the way I am is the way I have been treated all my life.
But you need to learn to not take it out on your friends.
Maybe take your best closest friends and have individual talks with them about your hurts in life. Sometimes opening up to others does wonders.

I will try that, thank you for understanding and helping me out,

Is this a serious question? Please don't change who you are so you can keep friends that won't accept you for you. Instead of changing because you might lose them, leave them because of their manipulative and rude personalities. Unless you did something wrong that made them say you had to change (you might be leaving some stuff out) then tell them that who you are is who you'll always be and if you do change it's for yourself, not for them.

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Originally Posted by Clough https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/amhd_i...s/viewpost.gif
Hi, unhappy 1!

I agree with the others that it would be helpful if you would provide specifics as to what others don't like about your personality.

Thanks!

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Originally Posted by unhappy 1

My personality isn't very nice, Im aggressive, Violent , Nice when I want to be , I get into trouble a lot , Im always unhappy , and I always look on the negative side , instead of the positive.

Hi again, unhappy 1!

Who's in control of how you think and act?

Thanks!