After seeing so many people post on here and living my own experiences... on days like today when the sky is gray and cloudy, I feel like an enduring love does not exist except between parents and their children.

It seems that in the past, few people got divorced. In these times it feels like there are many more divorces than people who are with their first husband or wife.

Some times I wonder why people even get married. It would be less dramatic if they were to simply live together because when they break up they can go their own ways rather than having to go through all the legal matters of divorce.

Does any one have a single story of hope?

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Originally Posted by teastalk

Does any one have a single story of hope?

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My story:

Had a devastating break up with the girl of my dreams... begged to get her back, lost all self respect, dignity, hope, everything. Didn't think I could live without her. Then I learned to truly love... myself that is. To value myself and to know what makes me happy. To be able to look in the mirror everyday and be happy with who I am. Thus, I am more prepared in the long run to have a great relationship and to know what it takes to keep it going. Preparation is half the game, and I wasn't prepared until this happened to me.

Enduring love, it exists, but not until you make it exist within yourself first. And enduring love conquers problems together, it doesn't tear you apart.

Same boat as KC, I thought my ex "was the girl of my dreams" but she was not, and I didn't realize it until after we broke up and I made a clean break from her emotional stranglehold she had on me. I took time to myself, did things that made me happy and began to get comfortable with myself and love myself, now I am in a happy relationship, engaged to married next June.

On a side note, my parents have been married for 25 years, together for 29. They were high school sweethearts, same with my 2 aunts and uncles.

Married more than 30 years. Kissed a lot of frogs before my queen showed up. Keep living, and keep the attitude positive, and have as much fun as you can. Sometimes a broken heart is a symbol of trying, and taking a risk. That doesn't mean get desperate either. If your happy doing your own thing, someone will want to share it with you.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Married more than 30 years. Kissed a lot of frogs before my queen showed up. Keep living, and keep the attitude positive, and have as much fun as you can. Sometimes a broken heart is a symbol of trying, and taking a risk. That doesn't mean get desperate either. If your happy doing your own thing, someone will want to share it with you.

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This is why he's the expert. 24 years together after my own share of frogs. Anything worth keeping takes work to hold onto. When you find it, grab hold with both hands.

Lost of what I though the girl of my "dreams", then I figured out that she wasn't as perfect as I thought she was ( my brain is telling me it's the best thing that ever happened to me, the break up ). If you work hard on a relationship it can last as long as you want...