I cheated on my hubby with another guy who was with someone too.
I felt really bad and told him and the other guy told his partner too.
He has fogiven me and wants to make a fresh go of our marriage. The problem now is that the other guys missus is now harassing me and won't leave me alone. What do I do?

K

Regardless of the REASON someone harrasess another person, its still harassment, and if you wish for it to stop, either go to the police station with a harassment complaint and hope that they convince her to stop, or go to court and request a restraining order.

Good luck hon.

Make sure that she can't contact you and don't engage with her at all - change your numbers if you have to or get a phone where you can se what number is ringing. Don't answer if she calls, and delete any messages she leaves without listening to them.

Perhaps let her husband know, as it's his responsibility to speak to her, not yours.

She'll soon get sick of it - it's just her way of dealing with it.

I like Gemini's and Jenni's answers to this. You have to take care of yourself, and a spurned wife may go to lengths you never thought possible.

Also, you don't know what your lover told her. He could have made this whole thing your fault, and that's why she's over the top angry with you, and not taking it out on him.

I would not respond to her in any way, shape or form. But, I would keep a diary of the calls, dates and times, and any other activity directed toward you.

If it continues, or increases, I agree that you should seek a restraining order against her- and provide the proof you have collected.

Had to spread rep for everyone else.

They are correct. Take whatever measures are necessary to block him out of your life (such as changing your phone number and blocking him on email). Do no return his communications. Write down every incident in a journal. If he persists, you can bring the journal to the police station and get a restraining order.

It's time to focus on your marriage. You husband is amazing for forgiving you. I'm glad that you are owning up to your mistake of cheating on your husband. It's time for you to work on regaining his trust.

Thank you everyone. Have not had no communication to now, but will report his or her behaviour to the police. I diddnt want to go down this route as I felt really bad this happened at all, but have no alternative.


Thanks again for all your amazing help.

Kisses,
Kim
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You have done so well by quitting the relationship and for being totally honest and open to your husband. Do not be moved by the other guy's harassment. He's only a barking dog that cannot bite.