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  • Jun 23, 2009, 10:29 PM
    Hayymayy89
    I Have A Boyfriend That I Love But I Like This Other Guy and He wants To Have Sex.
    K Well I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I love him more than anything in the world... but at times I feel like he acts like a little kid... But Me and this other boy got to talking and he wants to have sex with me... I Like him a lot I might actually love him but I don't think he really likes me I think all he wants is for me to do stuff with him... I want to but I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend but I don't want to break up with him either... but on the other hand I want to do stuff with this other guy to... what do I do?
  • Jun 23, 2009, 10:39 PM
    gabriela_dc

    I think you're going to feel so guilty if you do cheat on your man or leave him for 10 minutes of pleasure. If you keep your guy and do cheat on him you're not going to be able to trust him from what you did.I understand wanting to hook up with a randomn guy like a fantasy but take a good look at your man and decide who's really there for you not for pleasure
  • Jun 23, 2009, 10:42 PM
    taoplr
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Hayymayy89 View Post
    K Well i have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now and i love him more than anything in the world... but at times i feel like he acts like a little kid... But Me and this other boy got to talking and he wants to have sex with me... I Like him alot i might actually love him but i dont think he really likes me i think all he wants is for me to do stuff with him... I want to but i dont want to cheat on my boyfriend but i dont want to break up with him either... but on the other hand i want to do stuff with this other guy to... what do i do?!

    Forget the other guy, May. You already know that he is playing you and doesn't really like you. Besides, cheating on your boyfriend compromises you. If you "love him more than anything in the world" and you are ready to cheat on him for some guy who doesn't care for you, what does that say about you? What kind of person do you want to be?

    Tao
  • Jun 23, 2009, 11:28 PM
    friend4u178

    What a silly idea , giving up your dignity for someone who only wants you for sex??

    If your going to do it at least have the decency to break up with your boyfriend first , he deserves at least that.
  • Jun 24, 2009, 06:42 AM
    kctiger

    How old are you? The question begs to be asked, with your immaturity for asking such a low down and dirty proposition... are you going to do this all of the time? When are a female, there are a LOT of guys that will want to have sex with you... it's the way of the world. You going to question your relationship every time this happens?

    Grow up, be mature and focus on your boyfriend.
  • Jun 24, 2009, 07:11 AM
    jolienoire

    You sound rather young to me, and why ask questions to others about your own morality, if you can't distinguish right from wrong, and have respect for any relationship then you shouldn't be in one. P.S. I doubt that you are in love with this other guy perhaps infatuated. But not love
  • Jun 24, 2009, 07:14 AM
    slapshot_oi

    You're options are pretty clear, you can be either a cheater, a booty-call, both or you stay in a relationship in which you don't really want to be in.
  • Jun 24, 2009, 10:39 AM
    talaniman
    You do sound young, and don't know what love is. Love is not cheating because someone else wants you for sex.

    Your worth more than being a sex toy to some guy your attracted to. Leave this guy alone, or be used, that simple.

    Love doesn't make you do dumb stuff, but not loving yourself does.

    Learn to deal with your own feelings or be ready to confuse love with lust, and be lead down a path you will regret.
  • Jun 24, 2009, 11:17 AM
    liz28
    Don't leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for one they love.

    After he gets what he wants (which is sex) do you really think this guy is going what a relationship with you? I think not. Sure he might might come back for seconds, even thirds, but that is it. After he finish using you for sex it is going be a wrap.

    Btw, I hope your using condoms and you need to do your boyfriend a favor by leaving him. This way you can have the sex with anyoneyou chose. Have fun allowing yourself to used and if you think you really love your boyfriend I must ask you what is your meaning of love? Your only kidding yourself!

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