Hi. Im 17 years old and I've been dating the same guy for a little over 2 years now. Up until about 2 weeks ago, we have been really happy. We had our fights, yes, but we always come back. But over the past month or so, I haven't seen much of him. He is 19, turning 10 in December. Do you think he wants to break up with me? I mean when I asked him about it he said that he didn't, but its ether that or he's cheating, right? Ive never had a boyfriend that I was this serious about in my life. I can seriously see myself spending the rest of my life with him. But I just need someone to talk to about it. Everyone I know is against us saying that we can't know what love is that were too young. But I know I love him. If anyone can help me out and just talk to me and let me vent to them that would be amazing. I need to get out all of my everything. I can't even talk to my best friend because she don't like him. He really is a good guy. He never hits me or any thing. So please get back to me!

Just because he doesn't hit you doesn't make him a "good guy". There is a reason everyone you know doesn't agree with your relationship, maybe they know something you don't. I have no doubt you love him, but you need to talk to him and get to the meat of the problem. We can't really help you if you don't know the exact problem.

Also, sometimes people just need space, give him some and take some time for yourself.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by sixthirteenosev

Hi. Im 17 years old and I've been dating the same guy for a little over 2 years now. Up until about 2 weeks ago, we have been really happy. We had our fights, yes, but we always come back. But over the past month or so, I haven't seen much of him.

---

Chances are he wants to be free. He's been tied down for two years now. Your both still young and I know you hate to hear that.

Is he working? What does he do all day since school is out? Have you tried talking to him about this? If so, what did he say?

Quote:

---

Do you think he wants to break up with me? I mean when I asked him about it he said that he didn't, but its ether that or he's cheating, right?

---

No it could be that he wants some space. You shouldn't jump to the conclusion that he's cheating, unless you have some sort of "proof" that he is.

When a partner is distancing themselves it usually means that they want to end it. I would suggest trying to talk to him again. If anything your boyfriend would be the one to give you the best answer than any one of us.

Quote:

---

Ive never had a boyfriend that I was this serious about in my life. I can seriously see myself spending the rest of my life with him.

---

I wouldn't think that you had any other "serious" boyfriend- your 17. I really doubt your going to be with him for the rest of your life, the odds are against you.

I'm just going to add: The last thing you want to do is bring up a child to "keep you together". It's really a poor choice. If he wants out and you end up pregnant he'll either:
a) feel obligated to stick with you and he will really be sour throughout the relationship
b) run away before the baby is even born and deny the child
c) he'll pay child support but won't want anything to do with you or the child
d) will be involved in the child's life, pay child support but won't want to include you in his life.

Quote:

---

Everyone I know is against us saying that we can't know what love is that were too young. But I know I love him. If anyone can help me out and just talk to me and let me vent to them that would be amazing. I need to get out all of my everything. I can't even talk to my best friend because she don't like him. He really is a good guy. He never hits me or any thing. So please get back to me!

---

It's not that we're against your "love"- everyone on here has had a first love. It was hard, some of us even married our high school sweethearts but in the end there was a bitter divorce and many regrets.

When your 17 you don't realize how big the world is. There are many options out there for you and being in a "committed" relationship right now is completely absurd and it will hold you back from the many opportunities that'll come your way.

Hate me if you want but this relationship isn't going to last, even if you push it to 11 years I can guarantee you that you'll be going through hell and back and have nothing to show for it when it's over.

Good luck.

Sarah

Something is going on because I could understand 1 or 2 people not liking this but everyone hates him--not good. Even your not admitting to something or your just to blind to see it or you simply ignores it.

You are making this guy your everything which isn't healthy. I think you might have some insecurities going on. Or your pulling him away with your insecurities.

Only he knows if he wants to break up with you or if he is cheating. Btw, why do you think this?

Also, I wonder when you do try to talk him what is your tone like?

You're a high schooler, he is an adult. Your both in different places and you have a ways to go to be where he is. He knows that.