So I met this girl about 2 years ago, and we were just really good friends. I talked to her everyday, I texted her and she would text me. My one really good friend that's a boy is really good friends with her as well, so were basically her two really good friends. She has a boyfriend though that she been going out with for about 1 year but she never really hangs out with him and he treats her like crap sometimes. She always wants to hang out with me and my friend, and she always has a lot of fun. I make her laugh a lot and we always have a good time. Yesterday we went out to dinner and we were in the back seat and I had to put my arm around her (nothing serious) because we were crammed in the car. It didn't seem like she minded it and she didn't say anything about it. When we got inside to eat she would stand by me and sit next to me, etc. After we were done, I did the same thing on the way home, I had my arm around her because we were crammed in the car. After we got back home she said goodbye to both me and my friend. I then got home and my friend told me that she was texting him and I/Ming him. Its not that I'm jealous but I was curious of what she was telling him. Was she telling him that she felt uncomfortable with my arm around her? was she mad? etc. When it comes to these situations I always feel self-conscious about myself. I'm a really nice kid and I didn't mean to make her feel uncomfortable in anyway. Sometimes I even think that she likes me?? Any advice on what to do, or on what she may have been talking about to my good friend?? I'm kind of worried.

Why not ask either one of them and clear the air.
They are your friends, that is what I would want my friend to do for me.
Not to sit at home worried about it, but be comfortable enough to check with me if he had your kindof concerns.

Is there ever a right mistake?

Mmm I'm not sure what the problem is here... are you jealous? She isn't your girlfriend is she? Your all friends aren't you?

Yea were all good friends but some girls get mad and creeped out by weird things, so I don't know if that's the case?

I doubt it was something you did hon. She may just be that way. Give her time to calm down and she may go back to normal.

What they were texting or IMing about is really none of your business.

You didn't do anything wrong (from what you are telling us) so you shouldn't worry about it.

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Originally Posted by tommyboy123

yea were all good friends but some girls get mad and creeped out by wierd things, so I don't know if thats the case?

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You can't spend your life worrying about offending people or creeping them out. What you did was harmless. If she is creeped out about it, SHE is the one with the issues... not you.

Yea I don't think she's mad but I don't know. She doesn't get mad at little things like that usually, but who knows.

Tommy.. Im telling a piece of advice that can save you forever.. Live your life the way you want to live it and don't concern yourself wondering or worrying about if a girl is mad.

If she is mad, she will tell you. Maybe it will be your fault or maybe it will be her mixed up head. Either way, confront it and deal with it when it becomes apparent. One of the worst things that a girl wants to constantly hear is you always asking "are you mad?"

Yea that's very true, just feels awkward because I've known her for so long and its bothering me

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Originally Posted by tommyboy123

yea thats very true, just feels awkward because I've known her for so long and its bothering me

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Those are your own inadequacies making your feel that way. Do away with those feelings. They will bring you nothing but suffering.

Anyone else have advice or what is going on?

What kind of answers are you looking for? No one can tell you what they were talking about but them.

And I am telling you, you do not want to go asking them what they were talking about. 1) its none of your business and 2) you will come off as an over-insecure person. Both of these will potentially drive this girl away from you...

Ok, I won't chime in anymore. If you keep asking, I am sure someone will tell you what you want to hear.

I appreciate your answers but I was just wondering if anyone else had anything to say.

What kind of answer are you looking for?


Yes its ALL your fault. You're a screw up. Bow down and beg her for forgiveness...


Is that good?

I don't know what more we can tell you other than what we have.

This is a lot of worry over nothing. Yeah, your jealous of your friends, or just nosy. Leave it alone, and let it go.

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. She hangs out with us more and has a really good time when hanging out with us. Most of all the funny things I say even if there not really that funny she laughs too. Is this a sign that she may like me? She also textes me almost everyday, and we usually have long conversations. The only thing that's getting me confused is that she has a boyfriend, and I don't know if she likes me. Any advice please!

She has a boyfriend, so my advice is to back off. Whether she likes you doesn't matter, as she is taken.

Just wait, and continue as you are.
Surely, you don't want to wreck what another couple has. Plus, you may only know the tip of the iceberg about their relationship.

If she does like you - something will happen.
Unless you have a terminal illness waiting won't hurt.