My wife does not orgasm when we have sex. We have tried her masturbating during and before I have preformed oral sex on she doesn't orgasm from it. Should I let her friend who is lesbian and is attracted to her show me with her how to get my wife off? Or is that a bad idea all the way around. They tried to have a bi-sexual affair on the side and I told her it wasn't happening but now I want to help out our sex life, an I want her to teach me. What should I do? My wife would be comfortable with it.

They've got some really good books out. The sensuous man is a good one. You say no to the affair, but yes to "lessons" ? Not a good idea. Keep trying solo, it's there somewhere .Good luck.

How you have sex with who and how many is a personal choice, Not one for me but something you have to live with and your own moral compas.

Personally it is not the who but the how, so obviously she is not finding something good

Can she when she does it alone ?

Yes she can figure it out by herself but can't explain it to me.

She say she is happy with sex life but she just has a curious mind about sex with a woman

Is your wife all for it?

For some reason I have a suspicion that she is into women now, ergo the no orgasms.

Just a thought.

Sarah

Good point Muddy. There may be an attraction to the opposite sex holding her back.

Personally I would be a very wary of that situation. If the friend has an attraction to your wife she may encourage your wife to "stray"
I'm not saying she will for sure but I would keep trying to explore her body in your own ways through either reading up or just practicing.
I can't provide any sites myself due to the fact I wouldn't be allowed to post it in a public forum but there are a surprising amount of fellatio and masturbation tutorials on the internet.

What about trying lesbian porn, with just the two of you, to see how she reacts?