Is it sad that I'm 16 and feel nothing? Sure I "feel" the basics, physical pain, Hunger and thirst, But I mean the feelings that make people human. Don't get me wrong I'm the farthest thing possibly from some faggy Emo kid. But Its like there is no emotion running through my minds at times. Sometimes I think about life and how unacomplishing mine is. But I guess that's part of being a teen? Or just me? Who knows.
the only thing that I believe has kept me going is my will. I believe in my head that I can do anything and have convinced myself at times. But it is nothing but a never ending circle of lies. The worst part is no matter how bad or good things get I look at the as mutual neither good nor bad, helpful or harmfull there for no motivation, I strive to live for no reason but living. Am I insane? Or is that normal? Its all the same to me.
I was thinking the other day about life and death... is life more than just waiting for death? What is the point of life if you start dying?
The moment your born you begin to grow older and die. Is there a meaning behind it? Or does it mean absolutely nothing? This thought has corrupted my mind for weeks now because it is the only question that can't be answered by my hidden ego.
Love. What does it feel like? Is it a real feeling? A necessity? Or is it just a word, to make people feel something, anything. If this feeling is so know to the world why can't we understand it, I can't even comprehend the reason why I don't feel it. Was it letdowns and broken promises from recent years, Something wrong in my early child hood? Or am I just flawed?
Happiness. Is this the feeling of laughter? Or something deeper? You know family events where everyone is full of joy and laugh and are "happy"? I understand the emotion to a point but don't feel it. I usually find myself hiding behind fake smiles let others enjoy their time, Emotions spread right? Fake or not? This is usually followed by the fake laughs and ploys to continue the "happy" atmosphere.
The only things I connect with would have to be Moral. Not love and hate, but Honor and pride. Everyone knows what's right and wrong. Then there are the people who corrupt their own morals for selfish gain. But what about the people who just stopped caring? I have great pride in my actions though they may not follow the majoritys Moral guidelines. Also my ways prevent me from being connected. Sure I have friends, though they may not be close we hang out. But they fear it will stay this way. I don't think they would understand the real me. My social life is nothing but a lie. All the friends I have made have been though fake feelings and empty smiles.
I have seen people like me in the streets interacting. So I'm assuming I'm just as easy to spot. Its easy to pickout a fake smile because the eyes just don't match.
Anyway, I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on helping my feelings? Anything would help. Or is this even a healthy mindset?

I don't know the answer to your question, but your not alone. I feel the same way most of the time but other times I'm the complete opposite.

No, your outlook is not healthy. I used to be a lot like you, and still have some of the same issues. Is there anything you regret in your life, such as a family history or the loss of a friend? Do you want to have proper feelings? Is there anything you feel is blocking you from these feelings?

Well I don't think I regret anything. The last thing I ever try to think about is the past. I usually try to resolve conflicts as they come and if I can't leave them be, I don't waste too much time on one moment.

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Originally Posted by gnileefon

Is it sad that im 16 and feel nothing? Sure i "feel" the basics, physical pain, Hunger and thirst, But I mean the feelings that make people human. Dont get me wrong im the farthest thing possibly from some faggy Emo kid. But Its like there is no emotion running through my minds at times. Somtimes I think about life and how unacomplishing mine is. But i guess thats part of being a teen? or just me? Who knows.
the only thing that i believe has kept me going is my will. I believe in my head that I can do anything and have convinced my self at times. But it is nothing but a never ending circle of lies. The worst part is no matter how bad or good things get I look at the as mutual neither good nor bad, helpfull or harmfull there for no motivation, I strive to live for no reason but living. Am i insane? or is that normal? Its all the same to me.
I was thinking the other day about life and death... is life more than just waiting for death? What is the point of life if you start out dieing?
The moment your born you begin to grow older and die. is there a meaning behind it? or does it mean absolutely nothing? This thought has corrupted my mind for weeks now because it is the only question that can't be answered by my hidden ego.
Love. What does it feel like? Is it a real feeling? a necessity? or is it just a word, to make people feel somthing, anything. If this feeling is so know to the world why can't we understand it, I can't even comprehend the reason why I dont feel it. Was it letdowns and broken promises from recent years, Somthing wrong in my early child hood? Or am I just flawed?
Happiness. is this the feeling of laughter? or somthing deeper? You know family events where everyone is full of joy and laugh and are "happy"? I understand the emotion to a point but dont feel it. I usualy find myself hiding behind fake smiles let others enjoy their time, Emotions spread right? fake or not? This is usualy followed by the fake laughs and ploys to continue the "happy" atmosphere.
The only things i connect with would have to be Moral. not love and hate, but Honor and pride. Everyone knows whats right and wrong. Then their are the people who corrupt their own morals for selfish gain. But what about the people who just stopped caring? I have great pride in my actions though they may not follow the majoritys Moral guidelines. Also my ways prevent me from being connected. Sure i have friends, though they may not be close we hang out. But they fear it will stay this way. I dont think they would understand the real me. my social life is nothing but a lie. all the friends i have made have been though fake feelings and empty smiles.
I have seen people like me in the streets interacting. So im assuming im just as easy to spot. Its easy to pickout a fake smile because the eyes just dont match.
Anyway, i was wondering if anyone had any ideas on helping my feelings? anything would help. Or is this even a healthy mindset??

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When I was your age, I felt the same way. My life didn't really have meaning and I felt like I was out of place where ever I went. I was never really happy or never really sad. I felt like I was missing something. One of my friends invited me to church and since I had nothing else to do, I went. I listened intently to what the Sunday school teacher was saying. It made me want to know about having meaning in my life. To make a long story short, I became a Christian at age 17 years old. God opened my eyes to everything around me. I realized that I had been focusing on myself and everything that I was facing from day to day. The Bible says that we are fearfully and wonderfully made and that God has a purpose for us. It never made sense until I became a Christian.

As a teen, we are faced with many things. Why not try to do things that adds to another person's life. It helps take the focus off us. It also makes a difference. For instance, work in a soup kitchen, volunteer at a shelter, help out in your neighborhood, volunteer in a retirement home. There is something about doing things for others that takes the focus off us and helps us to focus on others less fortunate and unable to care for themselves.
But a note here, doing works does make one a Christian. But it does give one a sense of worth.

If you have never read the Bible, I would encourage you to do so. It changed my life and gave it direction and lead me to knowing God. RNRG

There is nothing wrong with you. In fact, It is quite the opposite.

It is a good thing, to think. To find meaning, or try to find meaning in other's actions, perceptions, behaviour. You are very astute at your age to be able to put those thoughts on paper, and have the intelligence to wonder about life.

All that you want, is perhaps something you haven't experienced yet. Love for instance. Love to some people is a superficial relationship for personal gain, but not a deep, meaningful connection. It may take your peers time to catch up with just the idea of what love is, let alone try to figure it out. But, because you have not 'been in love', you do not yet have that life experience, however, when you do experience it, you will be able to understand it.

We all do the phoney smile thing. I've done it, and absolutely hated it, but there is something about everybody is supposed to behave a certain way, especially at holiday times. Behind those smiles are thoughts that are more suitable to a party at Freddie Kruger's.

The more you think, and care about people, and find meaning as you mature, you will be a very happy person I think. You are insightful and wise for your age. What you do choose to have as meaningful relationships in your life might not be 650 'friends' on Facebook, but a handful of like minded, thoughtful, caring individuals that you will have all of your life.

What you have become so far, is pretty darn good in my opinion.

I couldn't agree more with what Jake said. When I first read this thread, my first thought was, this person has a very healthy mindset, especially for your age as well, wish I was like that at your age. You're very mature with a good head on your shoulders, you'll do well in life, I'm sure of it.

Hello gnileefon. Ive read your question and the thread of answers. You've gotten some good answers. I have to differ some of the peopes that want to say that your mindset is completely healthy. It is healthy, but it's not a complete healthy mindset. It is though, the very firm and sound base to one. I think what is missing from it that would help to root and bring out real joy and eventually happiness is inspiration. You may find that inspiration in Christianity. You may find inspiration simply in some companionship with someone special.
Is there any activity that you have a feel drawn to that you feel some sort fulfilment or satisfaction for. Look in yourself for something like that. You can start to learn more about that and then befriend people with the same interest. There is more to life than death. You said " The moment you're born, you begin to grow old and die". Well that's really more of a "glass is half empty" or else negative point of view. Think of life like a book. You don't just breeze through all the pages in the book to read the last page. You don't read the book for the last page but for the story leading up to it. It is in fact true that death is the only certain thing in life.
Honor and pride all by themselves are emotions. So, like I said before, you've got a good start. You just need to find something to take pride in doing and feel honored for. Keep in mind though that people aren't ever honored for doing drugs or being sex hounds. So I suggest to steer away from those sorts of satisfying activities.
One reason I bring up Christianity is that you can find all of yourself proclaimed characteristics and inspiration in yourself. You can find many more answers to many more questions than what I've addressed here.
The lack of feelings that you've here can also be rooted from younger childhood experiences too. I would like to talk about that extreme possibility too. Because I felt the same way at your age.
I hope I've been helpful today, or maybe even a little inspirational. :) Huh?

Well thanks for the feedback and the compliments I appreciate it.

Mmm... well my opinion differs here from others... but I suggest you talk to a psychologist.

That 'empty' feeling, is a symptom of bipolar that I experience immediately before a downward spiral into depression.

There might not be anything wrong at all. But you should at least talk to your parents or doctor about it.