I think I should dump my boyfriend. I have started a relationship with someone new since 2 years of not being with anyone since my previous breakup. When I first met this person I told him I did not want to play games and I just wanted honesty. I asked if he had any type of addictions or if he was not looking for a relationship I would like to know up front. He said he had no addictions and he was looking for a long term relationship. Well the first month he seemed to be the perfect guy. I was so thrilled to have met him. Sends me flowers, nice texts, and takes me out. After a month I find out he has a drinking and drug problem. Then he tells me to give him a chance he will stop. He’s needs me, I am so good, he wants help. Month later he tells me he didn’t stop wants another chance, and same scenerio. Then I find out he still talks to his ex when he told me he did not. (He would constantly talk about how badly she hurt him). I told him that was it, He comes to my house and begs me back. Tells me to call her and ask her, which I said no. He tells me there’s nothing going on just friends, sorry he lied give him another chance, and now stops bringing her up. Things are okay, but the drinking is still going on and he starts acting dumb and apologizes the next day. He says no more drugs, but sometimes he doesn’t answer his phone, doesn’t call when he says he will and it bothers me.

On top of that his parents do not like me because I have a child, so when I dropped him off he asked me to leave him in the corner because his dad was home. Then I asked him why he never added my sister or me to his Facebook list and why he doesn’t want his dad to know about me and asked if he was hiding me. I told him it was bugging me. He texts me that he doesn’t need to see those kinds of texts and that I should relax my a**. I got upset and gave him a piece of my mind, and we have not talked since. Now every time we are together he is this really different person. We get along great but when he’s not around he’s this other person I can not figure out and keeps me wondering if he’s on drugs or what. It’s been four months of this good person, bad person thing. I’m thinking that I don’t need this drama and I should just not answer his calls if he calls and just walk away. If he doesn’t call then I’ll leave it at that. Although I like the person he is when we are together, can this actually work? I see some signs of him trying, but then it’s some kind of drama again and now I feel like I’m getting dramatic myself. Are his lies making me insecure? I’m beginning to feel insecure, when I never have in my past relationship with the father of my daughter. He makes me feel like I am the crazy person. Please knock some sense into me. I need to hear it.

I agree. I think you should dump him too. You don't need him. Think of it this way, do you want your daughter to ever be treated that way? You are her role model. She'll learn from you. If you set the example its OK to be with a guy like this, she'll probably end up with a guy like that.

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Originally Posted by lsparky1

Please knock some sense into me. I need to hear it.

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Dump his @$$. Why are you still around all this negativity when you can be released of all the tention, stress and emotional drainage just by getting rid of this guy?


I trust you will make the right decision for both of you and go away.

He's got big time issues, you now have a daughter that you need to be focusing your energy on. Don't waste your time on some one who has already shown you that he is a liar, and skitso. If you have a child by him your going to be in a worst situation than your in now. "know them by their spirit not their flesh" translation know a person by what their personallity is not by the way they look on the outside. Superficial things that don't mean anything. The true person is who is within.

Look, I reckon you should always follow your intuition.

You feel insecure when he's around, you don't trust him, he lies, it's a drama, his father doesn't like you, etc, etc. You can sense your own behavior changing in response to him.

He lies, he drinks, he does drugs.. it's only been 4 months and the doubts are setting in...

Don't answer the calls. He's trouble and you know it. You don't need this.

My advice: run for the hills.

Defineately follow your instincts. Its clear that he lies to you. Its also clear that you care. A LOT, too much for someone who can't even respect you or your needs.

You sound like a really nice person, I think you can do much better :) Dump him.

All I had to see was I think I should dump my boyfriend and I said yes!
If your statement is that clear,I agree :)

Yep, dump him and focus on making your life even better.

Regardless of whatever addictions he has, he's a liar.

Dump this loser.

Some people aren't worth figuring out. If his behavior changes drastically when he isn't with you, that's a clear sign that something is up. I would not talk to him anymore... period. Set a good example for your child and leave this loser in the dust... you don't need this type of influence on yourself and your kid.

You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders, so I think you'll be okay with this one ;)

Definitely dump this d-bag. If he is hiding you, which it sounds like he is, the reason behind it doesn't even matter. It's the fact that he is. I agree with the others. He's not even worth trying to figure out. You shouldn't waste your time with someone who makes you insecure, you don't want it to get so bad that it ruins it for the next guy.