Originally Posted by
beckychurcher
I have re read my question, I am sorry if its not that clear..but he told my best friend ( who I have told what is happening) that he is thinking of sleeping with this woman as I am blaming him anyway, and he also said to me that he is thinking of lying to me and say he has had an affair with her because that way I should be able to get over it. Either way why would he say that, it just does not make any sense to me. And yes it was a PI who followed him, and in his opinion something was definatley going on. Apparently they were in a pub with a group of co-workers and they all left to catch a train home, my husband and her were walking behind the other group untouching (and she wasn't falling over drunk then) and as soon as the others left them alone they turned to each other and put arms around one another, laughing and giggling. The PI lost them as they got into a taxi. That night he lied about the time he came home, he said around 2am, but I was still up, then he said 3am, my son came home then and he wasn't in..so it was after 3am, he still hasn't told me exactly. I want to see the phone bills so I can assess when he had contact with her and what times, day, night etc and for how long. I need him to prove to me he is not having an affair and he doesn't want to help prove it..he says that I should just believe him. I know he has lent her money, been a shoulder to cry on in the past, whatever has happened he has chosen to spend more time with her than at home with his family. He is her boss.