Ok this whole story is going to be so long but I need help and I trust you guys can help me since I'm new.Ok I met this girl back in January,she didn't like me at first so we kept talking and things started getting good around id say April.Well I took her to the movies about the last week of may and I asked her out she said yes.Well the week after that, was rough for me I lost my dad and I kept getting frustrated because something was bothering her on the following Thursday mornin and she wouldn't tell me.Well come Friday I went to her place and took her out to eat in stuff.Then Saturday comes and I found out she's cheating on me in stuff and I flip out and yeah ,she said it was because we fight too much in stuff.The only reason why I fought was because I dang near lost everything that week... my dad... my job... and now her and we kept arguing.Well we talked in stuff... and I asked her to give me a second chance lets discuss went wrong in our relationship and fix them so we did but we didn't get back together we just discussed what went wrong and what we needed to fix.Well I love this girl I really do... and I asked her if shed give me another shot in stuff and she said yeah... well her friend got my number out of her phone and started texting me and she started flipping out in stuff cause we were txting back in fourth... she asked me questions like what do you think about her in stuff... and like yeah she just got mad in stuff.Were not dateing and I'm trying to resolve our problems and I asked her how do I make her mad and she goes "by saying we need time apart from each other" when she's got a boyfriend in stuff and like she said she loved me but not the way I did her so I tolled her what she wanted to hear and I said I don't love you like that anymore I just really like you now and she goes then "whats the point of another chance if you dont love me"and like she says she don't like me anymore but I think she still does... I need to no what I need to do with this girl I mean she did cheat,but I am a forgiving person and I give everyone 2 chances with me so that's just 1 and she promised me another shot with her in stuff... and like I was wondering if I don't talk to her for a while not like not completely ignore her the rest of my life but like ignore her for like 3 or 4 weeks and she keeps txting me in stuff does she still like me and what do I need to do about this?


Thank you for reading this now help me please
Nick

1. you just said you didn't love her anymore.
2. she cheated on you.

Two reasons I wouldn't bother.

There are too many obstacles for you two to be happy. You lost your job and your dad, for some reason, you took it out on her, which in turn made you guys argue unnecessarily.

Then she cheats on you. You might still love her, but the trust is gone and your feelings for each other have greatly diminished. You're just hodling on to what's left. What you don't realize is that these feelings will only continue to diminish. If you want to take our advice, then don't prolong your pain and suffering anymore. Make it a clean break now and start moving on with your life.

Forget about if you have to ignore her for the rest of your life. You don't need to make that decision now.

First of all,I am sorry to hear about the bad things that have happened to you in the recent past.All the more reason for you to leave out anything negative and focus on yourself,your life and career.

See,I know how you feel when you want something and can't have it,for whatever reason.But more important than anything else is to ask yourself this:Would you like to keep feeling hurt?Would you like keep messing up your life and yourself especially now when you actually need to be good to yourself?And would you just like to HAVE somebody,anybody in your life,just for the sake of it,while by all standards,you are not exaclty happy being with that person?If its just this tendency to HAVE or POSSESS,then that's not a relationship... its just a means to feel a fake sense of well-being,thinking,I have somebody.

So,for the moment,stop making her the center of your life as though she were the be-all and end-all of it... concentrate on cleaning up your own life,pull yourself together,start living and take life as it comes instead of making yourself go crazy,thinking about this girl.Trust me,I am speaking from experience when I say this,its much more healthy this way,working on oneself,than wasting time feeling sorry and wishing the other person became the person we want to love.

May you find happiness and peace.