I have a 30 year old son who mentally abuses me. Family and friends tell me to cut all ties. How do I do that? I am a mother and it is tearing me apart but I can not take this abuse any longer. I sit here crying now from what he put me through this morning. He lost his drivers license and I drove him to work this morning. A typical morning is he gets in my car when I arrive to pick him up and immediately starts telling me that I am an awful mother and that I have never done anything for him. The truth is I drive him to work, to grocery store, to bank, I have cleaned his apartment, done all his laundry, pay his bills when he gambles all his money away.

The reality is that he is my only child and I have done too much for him and nothing is ever enough. I know it is my fault for spoiling him but why can he not appreciate anything I do for him?

Sometimes I meet people and hear about what a terrible mother they have been told I am. What he wants is for me to financially support him so that his pay can be used for gambling only. I can not do this. I can not take this constant ridicule anymore either.

How do I walk away? I need to walk away I need to find the courage to do it no matter how much I love my son. I by the way have tried to get him to seek help for his gambling addiction but he will not do it. He says there would be no issue if I would just be a better mother and do something for him instead of complaining about it. He means pay all his living expenses, What can I do? I know that I can not continue to cry and shake like this anymore.

You are treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. DO NOT ACCEPT THIS ANYMORE!! Easier said than done. But I support you is ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. Don't buy into it. Take the steam out of his sails and say you are right. No I am not going to this and yes it is awful and I know you think I am a bad mom. OH WELL!!

Good luck