In December I met a guy that I immediately fell for. We started dating and everything was going smoothly... then in April I got pregnant... and had to have an abortion. Its not that we didn't want to keep it, because we did, but later we mutually agreed that it would be best if we waited. After that it has gone slowly down hill. We still have good times, but now we fight all the time. Yesterday I got angry and broke up with him. I didn't mean it. It was a "in the heat of the moment" sort of thing. We've broken up twice in the last 2 months, but it didn't even last 24 hours. I have never felt more in love in my entire life. Im not sure if he will take me back this time, I was horrible to him.

Your relationship is still very young (approx 6 months) and you already have so many arguments and broke up twice. Relationships aren't suppose to be so tough. Sometimes you have to realize that the good times aren't enough. There are too many bad things to overcome. You guys broke up for a reason, so if you can't fix the problems, there's no reason to get back together.

First thing, you need to stop breaking up with him (or anyone) if you don't mean it. It will bite you in the butt every time. No one likes to be on an emotional roller coaster like that. If you want to be with him, I would express all your feelings to him. Tell him you will never break up again unless you are sure that is what you want. Start sorting out both of your feelings about what happened and about what you both want moving forward from here.

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Originally Posted by lostinneverland

In December I met a guy that I immediately fell for. We started dating and everything was going smoothly...then in April I got pregnant...and had to have an abortion. Its not that we didnt want to keep it, because we did, but later we mutually agreed that it would be best if we waited. After that it has gone slowly down hill. We still have good times, but now we fight all the time. Yesterday I got angry and broke up with him. I didnt mean it. It was a "in the heat of the moment" sort of thing. We've broken up twice in the last 2 months, but it didnt even last 24 hours. I have never felt more in love in my entire life. Im not sure if he will take me back this time, I was horrible to him.

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I think you need to read up on no contact. Your relationship is rocky, unstable and highly dysfunctional. I see a lot of issues that you are bringing to the table for instablity.

I think the only hope of you having a stable, healthy relationship is counseling and some self discovery. You appear insecure. You should also attend counseling to help you deal with the abortion.

Don't worry about him taking you back, you need to worry about yourself. There are many red flags in your very short statement that indicate you will just continue a roller coaster ride if you return to this relationship.

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Originally Posted by lostinneverland

In December I met a guy that I immediately fell for. We started dating and everything was going smoothly...then in April I got pregnant...and had to have an abortion. Its not that we didnt want to keep it, because we did, but later we mutually agreed that it would be best if we waited. After that it has gone slowly down hill. We still have good times, but now we fight all the time. Yesterday I got angry and broke up with him. I didnt mean it. It was a "in the heat of the moment" sort of thing. We've broken up twice in the last 2 months, but it didnt even last 24 hours. I have never felt more in love in my entire life. Im not sure if he will take me back this time, I was horrible to him.

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Hi
I read you mail, and see that you both have dating and physical relation ship but your mind devlopmen is not so much . Because have you ever talk to him what he like and what don't n tell him what you like in him and what you don't , for happy life both has to secrifise for each other , may be you start first but one day he realise what he do wrong to you n I'm dam sure he ll say sorry for that . But you have to find what he want and secrefise some of your rules . In my view big country has secrifise there rules to make there people happy then you are only living patener .
So
1 try to understand him
2 secrifise some of your rules which is not important to you for him
3 try to talk to him alwas
4 try to do think which he like and miss you when you are not there
N I'm sure you n he live happly .
Other wise I'm hear for u ha ha ha ha...
Take care